Indiana University Recruitment 2018

[PNMmom18]

My daughter found out literally 15 minutes before she had to leave for her first Preference round. It was a very long day and I have to imagine she wasn't in an ideal mindset to visit her 1st house. Today she has hibernated in her room not because of losing her legacy necessarily just the overall process is overwhelming. The lady from National had been in touch with my older daughter throughout recruitment asking for feedback on what the girls were saying, so I guess when she made it that far without being cut her hopes got pretty high. 1 mad daughter and 1 sad daughter not a great combination.

[APhi2KD]

Originally Posted by PNMmom18

My daughter found out literally 15 minutes before she had to leave for her first Preference round.

I’m so sorry, PNMmom. That happened to my daughter in August. She had zero time to absorb the shock and it just should NOT happen that way. (Both for personal AND practical reasons! It is an injustice to the sorority who is about to Pref her, as she walks into their party numb—regardless of where they may be in her mind and heart’s ranking.)

My sorority has just in the last few years removed the stipulation that the alum be notified of the cut and I truly disagree. I understand in many cases the number of legacies makes it impossible and/or that it would be horrific to be the person making that call, but if you can send me an email acknowledging receipt of the legacy form, you can send me a heads-up email that my legacy has been released. (I think I would prefer that to a phone call anyway—I have zero desire to feign politeness and understanding whilst being eviscerated, thank you very much.)
Just a standardized, “We unfortunately need to tell you...” so that you can prepare your legacy and they can go into Pref night ready to find where they belong.

All of you going through this right now have my sympathies—it is just brutal!