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Dear Elip...sis: The NPC has already had this discussion. And decided. All the NPC member orgs agreed. I think you'll need more than the number of signees you've got to make this seem discussable again. There is always a small percentage of women who decide they don't like their choice. And alot of those who don't like it in the beginning come to adore their organization if they stick it out.
Your examples are vague, but when you saw "girls getting harassed about wrong doings," you could have used your sparkling charm to defuse the situation and negotiate a truce, pointing out the standards of generous and ethical behavior your sorority sets as one of your goals. Getting harassed and bullied for doing what you were told to do? Thank them for the feedback and ask for clarification. With charm and good humor. Watching girls get ignored? Reach out to them, be a good example, draw them into a meet&study coffee date or in- house popcorn-and-a-movie night. Mistreatment wasn't rectified? Go to your advisor for assistance. You could have used your natural enthusiasm, contagious good spirits, and great ideas to motivate and inspire your sisters to better behavior. Maybe a lot of these women grew up watching The Simpsons and have never had a good example of polite and respectful ways of dealing with frustration. Instead of being the solution, you just complained and waited for someone else to do something, and then quit when that strategy didn't work.
The sororities you think you want to be in - that don't have these relationship glitches- already have women who possess these skills. They're not going to want you if you don't have them, and your behavior says you haven't mastered these yet. A second chance to join another group wouldn't work because, well, it doesn't work. The groups that want you also have these same problems. Same boat, different color oars. These skills are learnable and necessary in the workplace. Time to get busy.
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