Formal Recruitment Suicide???

Originally posted by PandaBear:
Well last year, a girl that went through really wanted us, but she put down another group as her second choice...well we didn't bid on her, but they did and she accepted. Yet she told me last month (she has been a sister of her sorority for A YEAR already) that she still wished she could've been one of us and that she liked her sorority, but liked us better. This really made me think - should rush advisors be telling these girls not to suicide? I know they still are because my little sister has been a Rho Chi for the past 2 years and she tells them not to suicide. Does anyone out there have stories about their choice to (or not to) suicide? And was it the right choice for you? I'd like some input so that I can maybe discuss this further with Panhell. Thanks!

I have to say that I really feel for the girl who accepted a bid from her #2 choice and to this day, still pines for her #1 choice. Sometimes the difference between #1 and #2 is not so wide, while at other times the gap in a rushee's mind between #1 and #2 is extremely vast. In some ways, Formal Panhellenic Rush really annoys me that as a rushee, you have to return to EVERY single sorority that wants to see you. I think sure, go check all of them out for one time only, but after that, you should be able to return to where you want to as a rushee. In my opinion, the way that Rush stands today, it is just a way for weak chapters to acquire extra bodies, and just seems really unfair to rushees and their happiness at university!

So many people seem to preach, "Give this sorority a chance". Gee, isn't it funny how "easy" it is for others to preach this line when they themselves got their #1 choice.