Spring Recruitment at UTexas

[Titchou]

It was hard for me to answer the way I did and snark was part of my intention. The OP said she couldn't find ANY ANYWHERE. AZTheta's response was HERE IS SOME INFORMATION. And it's obvious the OP hadn't even called the Greek Life office because they would have given her SOME information...or else she just lied and said she couldn't find ANY so we'd be more sympathetic and do her work for her. If she had asked what is the best source for information on spring recruitment, that would have been a horse of a different color. But she didn't and I took her question at face value.

Hart, I'm sure that your two lovely, perfect daughters never asked for help before they had exhausted all efforts but not all teenagers are like that. Some are lazy and expect to be spoon fed. Most of us here don't cotton to that.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by Titchou

It was hard for me to answer the way I did and snark was part of my intention.

I'm actually kind of sorry to hear that -- especially after giving you credit for an appropriate and polite response.

Originally Posted by Titchou

The OP said she couldn't find ANY ANYWHERE. AZTheta's response was HERE IS SOME INFORMATION. And it's obvious the OP hadn't even called the Greek Life office because they would have given her SOME information...or else she just lied and said she couldn't find ANY so we'd be more sympathetic and do her work for her. If she had asked what is the best source for information on spring recruitment, that would have been a horse of a different color. But she didn't and I took her question at face value.

Maybe she meant she couldn't find any info online (which is true, considering the links provided so far) -- or maybe she didn't know she should call the Greek Life Office. Maybe she was hoping that someone with experience at UT would respond. Maybe she didn't know that she should exhaust all possible avenues of information before asking a question on this forum. Maybe she didn't know she should word her question in a different way in order to avoid eliciting snark. Or maybe she didn't know her question would be interpreted quite so literally ("ANY ANYWHERE").

MAYBE we should give her the benefit of the doubt, since she is young and obviously new to this process, instead of assuming that she "lied" so others would "do her work for her."

Originally Posted by Titchou

Hart, I'm sure that your two lovely, perfect daughters never asked for help before they had exhausted all efforts but not all teenagers are like that. Some are lazy and expect to be spoon fed. Most of us here don't cotton to that.

Perhaps this is part of the difference in perception/interpretation -- those of you who are not parents may interpret and treat questions differently than some of us who are parents -- especially those of us who have experienced a daughter participating in recruitment.

Surely you wouldn't treat a question from a PNM in real life with snark, a lecture, or an insinuation that she is lazy? So why is it okay in this forum?

[als463]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

I'm actually kind of sorry to hear that -- especially after giving you credit for an appropriate and polite response.



Maybe she meant she couldn't find any info online (which is true, considering the links provided so far) -- or maybe she didn't know she should call the Greek Life Office. Maybe she was hoping that someone with experience at UT would respond. Maybe she didn't know that she should exhaust all possible avenues of information before asking a question on this forum. Maybe she didn't know she should word her question in a different way in order to avoid eliciting snark. Or maybe she didn't know her question would be interpreted quite so literally ("ANY ANYWHERE").

MAYBE we should give her the benefit of the doubt, since she is young and obviously new to this process, instead of assuming that she "lied" so others would "do her work for her."



Perhaps this is part of the difference in perception/interpretation -- those of you who are not parents may interpret and treat questions differently than some of us who are parents -- especially those of us who have experienced a daughter participating in recruitment.

Surely you wouldn't treat a question from a PNM in real life with snark, a lecture, or an insinuation that she is lazy? So why is it okay in this forum?

Please don't use the "I'm a parent" response. The only thing being a parent qualifies you for is....raising children. That can be debatable for some people who have children too. Truthfully, if a PNM comes and asks a question like that, many of us would ask her what she looked up on her own. It's an honest response with no snark intended. Expecting her to contact the Greek Life office isn't exactly a bad suggestion. Stop being so easily offended by some people on here who chose to respond that way. Some of us gave the OP some advice and hopefully she takes it.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by als463

Please don't use the "I'm a parent" response. The only thing being a parent qualifies you for is....raising children.

FWIW, surprisingly, being a parent to teens and young adults actually does give one insight into and experience with teens and young adults. And being the parent to a daughter who is entering the recruitment process (especially a competitive recruitment) is a different perspective from that gained as a PNM oneself.

Thankfully, as far as I know, my daughter's experiences with other alums and information were snark-free. And I appreciate that.