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[pinksequins]

I'm confused, Nanners. I read DBB's comment as meaning that the victim not only has to relive the trauma through testimony but also skepticism by authorities as to the validity of the claim. In sum, it can be another horrific experience. Did I miss something?

[WhiteRose1912]

Originally Posted by pinksequins

I'm confused, Nanners. I read DBB's comment as meaning that the victim not only has to relive the trauma through testimony but also skepticism by authorities as to the validity of the claim. In sum, it can be another horrific experience. Did I miss something?

DBB was telling another woman (cinder) that since she had a different opinion on how rape should be handled, she clearly has no idea what it's like to be a rape victim trying to come forward to police, and dismissed cinder's opinion and experiences based on that assumption. That's the issue. I'm surprised to see this coming from DBB.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Nanners52674

I really respect you as a member but I'm incredibly bothered with your message. No one knows if someone has been raped and in a discussion about rape, to suggest to a woman that she has no idea what happens when a rape is reported is so far over the line. You have no idea who you're really saying this to. But if gosh forbid they happened to be a rape survivor you come off sounding like a hard assed bitch.

You're right; I made the unconscious assumption that someone (no matter their gender) advocating that all rapes be reported to the legal system is not someone who has reported a rape to the legal system. Based on my experience with rape survivors, I don't know a single one who would take that stance, but that doesn't mean there aren't some who would. Mea culpa.