I believe that what many posters are saying is that it is commendable that you (and many PNMs) are supportive and open to such chapters. But they are also saying that not everyone else is, nor will they be and that they are entitled to make that choice without either having to delve into details or being subjected to being scolded. Those women's obligation, having made their decisions, is to own the results and not whine.
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