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[maconmagnolia]

Just because a few girls talked about drinking doesn't mean that the sorority is full of hard partiers. My house has some members who go out and drink pretty frequently, we have plenty of members who don't drink or party at all, and we have many members who just go out once in a while! The girls who choose not to drink or party are never pressured to drink or made fun of. Everyone respects everyone else's choices. Every sorority has a diverse set of women and you will find women who drink in every chapter and women who don't drink in every chapter!

Again, every chapter has women who drink. It's college. Just because a few women made some inappropriate comments doesn't mean that the chapter is "bad news".

If it's not too late, I would encourage your daughter not to drop and to wait it out and see how things play out. I'm sorry that your daughter felt uncomfortable but I think she should give the sorority a chance. I'm sure she will find plenty of friends within the sorority who don't drink or party and she may end up really loving her sorority. She can always drop later on in the semester if she really doesn't like it, but at least she can say she tried to be happy and make friends. If she drops, she might be throwing away her only chance to be Greek (if she attends a school where sophomores rushing have a disadvantage).

[honeychile]

Not knowing the school or chapter involved, I would urge your daughter to give it at least a week (month). Having accepted the bid, she won't be able to accept another for a year whether she declines tomorrow or in a week (month). Give your daughter a chance to discover if there are sensible sisters in this sorority chapter. If she doesn't, then she can gracefully leave, knowing that they are not the chapter for her.