Thanks so much for the response! Both sisters are completely fine being in different houses. I just don't want Jane's options to be limited because other houses write her off as the sibling of a certain active. Should she tell her Rho Chi? Should she mention it during conversations? (That might cause her to shoot herself in the foot)
Well, her Rho Chi isn't supposed to report anything back to her or any sorority, but if Jane wants to just word vomit it out with her that might help.
If it gets brought up in conversation, she could maybe say something along the lines of "Susie and I are super close, but it makes our parents laugh sometimes because we're so different." As far as should Jane be the one to bring it up...that's hard to say.
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Awwww…The trial of the "sitting sister" legacy. I am going to try to sweep around this issue without getting into membership selection. (But your older daughter should be able to tell you what her chapter's policies are on sitting sisters) Most chapters consider the "sitting sister" legacy the strongest kind of legacy. (Think about it….do you want to be "the" sister that calls out lil sis PNM during chapter vote) I know from my experience the proper place for this issue to be addressed is in the respective letters of recommendations. For example, "Although Jane has a sitting sister at ABC, I feel it is very important that you realize that Jane really wants to explore all the chapters at U of Awesome and should be given the upmost consideration of DEF despite her legacy connection." It might not even hurt if Jane addressed a similar email to the VP of recruitment of each chapter that said the same thing. With that said, I would not be surprised if a PNM with that background took hard cuts first round.
Awwww…The trial of the "sitting sister" legacy. . . . For example, "Although Jane has a sitting sister at ABC, I feel it is very important that you realize that Jane really wants to explore all the chapters at U of Awesome and should be given the upmost consideration of DEF despite her legacy connection." It might not even hurt if Jane addressed a similar email to the VP of recruitment of each chapter that said the same thing. With that said, I would not be surprised if a PNM with that background took hard cuts first round.
If someone chooses to write using this wording, please check spelling: the word / spelling is "utmost," not "upmost."
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