The "coffee date rec"

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by DaffyKD

I have also been VERY bothered by the fact that I gave up my time to help them get the necessary rec but they don't let me know the outcome of their recruitment, never write a thank you note and act like we are obligated to do this for them.

Yes!!

I've been tempted to attach to my recs a self-addressed, stamped envelope with a note enclosed that says:

"Dear SydneyK,

Thank you for your time. We value your input on the future of Kappa Delta.

Recruitment has ended and Rachel Rec (choose one): A. Was offered a bid and excitedly accepted it! B. Was offered a bid but declined. C. Was not offered a bid.

Again, thanks for your time. We know you're busy and appreciate your willingness to help. We couldn't do it without support from our alumnae.

AOT,
Whatever Chapter"

I obviously wouldn't ever do that, but there are times when it feels like tackiness is the only thing that gets through.

Thanks, DaffyKD, for reassuring me that I'm not the only one who feels this way!

Now I'm wondering if the lack of response/thank you note is a generational thing? Do any chapters send hand-written notes these days? Heck, I'd even settle for an email letting me know the outcome!

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Yes!!

I've been tempted to attach to my recs a self-addressed, stamped envelope with a note enclosed that says:

"Dear SydneyK,

Thank you for your time. We value your input on the future of Kappa Delta.

Recruitment has ended and Rachel Rec (choose one): A. Was offered a bid and excitedly accepted it! B. Was offered a bid but declined. C. Was not offered a bid.

Again, thanks for your time. We know you're busy and appreciate your willingness to help. We couldn't do it without support from our alumnae.

AOT,
Whatever Chapter"

I obviously wouldn't ever do that, but there are times when it feels like tackiness is the only thing that gets through.

Thanks, DaffyKD, for reassuring me that I'm not the only one who feels this way!

Now I'm wondering if the lack of response/thank you note is a generational thing? Do any chapters send hand-written notes these days? Heck, I'd even settle for an email letting me know the outcome!

Ummmm at 45 cents per note for postage plus $1 each for stationary for 1200 girls + many girls had more than one note = at least $2000? I would say no, most chapters do not send a thank you note for every recommendation.

Some chapters have their new members send notes to whomever recommended them. That is very nice. Some of the NPC groups have a policy of notifying legacies of their status when they are dropped or bid. A few groups have a place where you can ask for her final status if a girl that you recommended is very special to you on their recommendation form.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by HQWest

Ummmm at 45 cents per note for postage plus $1 each for stationary for 1200 girls + many girls had more than one note = at least $2000? I would say no, most chapters do not send a thank you note for every recommendation.

Funny, the very large chapters I tend to send a lot of recs to (Oklahoma, Arkansas) always send thank you notes. I assume these large/competitive chapters have it down to a science and dedicate an entire committee to this task.

[33girl]

Considering we are talking about huge chapters who spend several thousand on rush, I would think that the $ from pledge fees would amortize the mailing cost and then some.

Not only that, don't most sororities provide stationery for chapters if they request it?

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

Funny, the very large chapters I tend to send a lot of recs to (Oklahoma, Arkansas) always send thank you notes. I assume these large/competitive chapters have it down to a science and dedicate an entire committee to this task.

Its possible that people that sends lots of recs or sends a few great recs every year are more likely to get a thank you note? This is the way it worked at the last chapter I advised.