How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

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Originally Posted by bakd

SHE is happy enough.

Wait, also, isn't this almost entire 23 page thread about this and other mom/daughter controversial subjects?

Also, about the complaining...I'm no feminist, but to say that a sorority woman shouldn't complain because it is unseemly just smacks of control. I am only complaining to help make this situation better in the future. After all, for me it is too late. Since this happened to us, you wouldn't believe the number of sisters that I have told me that they were never volunteering or donating again because of this situation. What other system asks for loyalty and work with no reward? I think that the sororities are going to be sorry for this policy in the long run. Yes, sororities are popular right now, but you know what they say, "easy come, easy go". We are (by virtue of this very topic) training these girls to think that sorority life is just a "for college thing" with no payoff for alumna loyalty. I believe that we will definitely find our $ and volunteer base dried up then. And then, we will find ourselves in a situation like the 1970s.... Wash, Rinse, Repeat.

Your last statement is doubtful. It's not as if our orgs are not pledging legacies at all or not pledging anyone. Plenty of women are joining.

Also, there are chapters who have high numbers of legacies to the point that they simply have to prioritize (for lack of a better word) legacies based on several factors (i.e. chapter legacies v. those from out of state.) Example: If you are a Big Texas University chapter member, and you have 2 equally qualified legacies, the one whose mom went to Big Texas might get the invite over the one who is from out of state.

It's entirely possible that the legacies who do not get bids are those not connected enough to the institution. Or their moms weren't particularly active. You wouldn't believe how many mad legacy moms swear they're never donating or doing ______ again when the only time the sorority heard or saw them was when they had a daughter coming through. Like, they'd never done any of that to begin with!