Question about informal recruitment

[kim90]

Thanks for both answers!

Just to clarify my statement, I take sorority meetings (mandatory or not) for important and I definitely will attend most of them. Otherwise it would not make sense to join a sorority.

I know that being in a sorority is something for life and not just a hobby, but I guess everyone would agree that I had or have a life before I will maybe join a sorority.

As I understood it, the sororities also want their sister to be involved in other clubs, activities and so on.
What I want to say, of course it would mean to me so much being in a sorority, but I will not abandon the friends I already have.
Of course I would try to schedule my appointments in a way which would allow me to get both, meetings with the sorority and seeing my friends in other cities. But I don't have a car, so I need to rely on public transportations and I'm not the one who is doing the bus/train schedule.

And again, it's not like, I will prefer my old friends over new friends in the sorority. But I don't think it is too much to ask for, to see my friends once or twice in a semester...

But when I understood you right, it would not offend them, when I ask in general how much time I should expect being with the sorority?

[sigmagirl2000]

Originally Posted by kim90

Thanks for both answers!

Just to clarify my statement, I take sorority meetings (mandatory or not) for important and I definitely will attend most of them. Otherwise it would not make sense to join a sorority.

I know that being in a sorority is something for life and not just a hobby, but I guess everyone would agree that I had or have a life before I will maybe join a sorority.

As I understood it, the sororities also want their sister to be involved in other clubs, activities and so on.
What I want to say, of course it would mean to me so much being in a sorority, but I will not abandon the friends I already have.
Of course I would try to schedule my appointments in a way which would allow me to get both, meetings with the sorority and seeing my friends in other cities. But I don't have a car, so I need to rely on public transportations and I'm not the one who is doing the bus/train schedule.

And again, it's not like, I will prefer my old friends over new friends in the sorority. But I don't think it is too much to ask for, to see my friends once or twice in a semester...

But when I understood you right, it would not offend them, when I ask in general how much time I should expect being with the sorority?

Asking what the time commitment will be is a completely reasonable and responsible question to ask. Also, most if not all NPC sororities require that the calendar of required events be provided to new members and members by the start of the semester, so that you should be able to plan the rest of your life. This is not to say that events can't be added or changed, but it would be helpful in a situation like yours. Good luck!

[33girl]

Your pledge time is very important. If you had a weekend job that was necessary $wise to you staying in school, that would be one thing. But to visit friends? You can't skip leaving town for 6 weeks? That's kind of a red flag imo.