Dropping my sorority

[ukdzccd]

As a chapter adviser, my advice would be if you are considering transferring for educational reasons, and have the possibility of affiliating with a different chapter of your same sorority, honestly that may be your best bet. It's very easy to dole out arm-chair advice about sticking with it and it's a lifetime commitment...yada, yada, yada, but we all know that sometimes the face that a sorority puts out during recruitment is not an accurate representation of what they are truly like once the big show is over and you get to the nitty-gritty of getting to know everyone. The attitude of the chapter with every new incoming member class can result in a shift in direction, so-to-speak, so it's not entirely unreasonable to think that maybe what you signed up for, wasn't what you ended up getting.

In Delta Zeta, you do not HAVE to affiliate if you leave your original school of initiation. So if you pledged/initiated at one school, found it didn't work for you and you wanted to switch, you could, and if you did not affiliate with the DZ chapter at your new school OR they didn't have one, you would become an alumna. Now, if you chose to affiliate, the DZ chapter at the new school would have to vote to accept your petition, so it's not a sure-thing, but it is an option.

It seems that you are very interested in the sorority, and in continuing your commitment that you made when you joined your particular group, but just not this group of women, and the above option, if it's possible for your sorority, might be the best way for you to retain your membership to continue as an alumna but not be in a chapter that you didn't mesh with as well as you expected you would.

Don't know if you are a DZ, but if you are, I'd be more than happy to answer any questions you might have.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by ukdzccd

As a chapter adviser, my advice would be if you are considering transferring for educational reasons, and have the possibility of affiliating with a different chapter of your same sorority, honestly that may be your best bet. It's very easy to dole out arm-chair advice about sticking with it and it's a lifetime commitment...yada, yada, yada, but we all know that sometimes the face that a sorority puts out during recruitment is not an accurate representation of what they are truly like once the big show is over and you get to the nitty-gritty of getting to know everyone. The attitude of the chapter with every new incoming member class can result in a shift in direction, so-to-speak, so it's not entirely unreasonable to think that maybe what you signed up for, wasn't what you ended up getting.

In Delta Zeta, you do not HAVE to affiliate if you leave your original school of initiation. So if you pledged/initiated at one school, found it didn't work for you and you wanted to switch, you could, and if you did not affiliate with the DZ chapter at your new school OR they didn't have one, you would become an alumna. Now, if you chose to affiliate, the DZ chapter at the new school would have to vote to accept your petition, so it's not a sure-thing, but it is an option.

It seems that you are very interested in the sorority, and in continuing your commitment that you made when you joined your particular group, but just not this group of women, and the above option, if it's possible for your sorority, might be the best way for you to retain your membership to continue as an alumna but not be in a chapter that you didn't mesh with as well as you expected you would.

Don't know if you are a DZ, but if you are, I'd be more than happy to answer any questions you might have.

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If you are transferring anyway, you are most likely to be an early alumna. You don't have to do anything at that point. You can decide whether to affiliate or not later. Since you are transferring, you might want to hit the pause button and sit with it for awhile, before you disaffiliate.

[adpiucf]

If you want to drop out, contact your chapter president or chapter advisor to discuss this procedure. If you're thinking about transferring to another school, this seems to be more to do with being generally unhappy and no sorority is going to be "right" for you until you are right with yourself. Wishing you the best as you sort everything out. College is a tough time and you're figuring a lot of stuff out. Sorority life isn't for everyone, and even for those involved its not always sunshine and rainbows. Being in an organization with women is HARD. If you're really sure it's not right for you, cut your losses and move on. But as with anything, if you aren't invested in something with a positive attitude and making an effort to get to know people, you're going to be miserable. That's just life in general.