advice for an oos at an SEC school

[SigKapSweetie]

I wouldn't stress out too much because she is not the most outgoing queen bee in the world. Shy women tend to have more trouble during recruitment just because the active sisters have SO many girls to remember and it does help to stand out for something, but she doesn't have to be the absolute center of attention at every party in order to be successful. There is a place in greek life for young women with all sorts of personalities, and most chapters don't want a new member class made up entirely of alpha girls/leaders. It takes a good mix of women to make an effective sisterhood.

Most women who go through recruitment at most schools, even the ones with competitive recruitments, can find a place in a chapter as long as they keep an open mind and seriously consider every chapter that invites them back. The women who drop out during the process often do so because they were not invited back by their favorites. As an OOS PNM, it may be a little easier for your daughter to keep an open mind because she hasn't spent her formative years hearing about which sororities are "the best" and she won't have to deal with the heartbreak of being dropped by the sorority where all of her high school friends went. That sort of thing can contribute to women deciding to drop out entirely rather than giving their remaining chapters a fair chance. I'd encourage to her go into it with the attitude that she is trying to make new friends and to be herself. Good luck to her and to you!