Dorm Shower...is that a thing now?

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

Puh-lease. That's just a tacky present grab, and kind of even tackier that the mom is hosting it.

No tackier than a baby shower or a bridal shower.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

No tackier than a baby shower or a bridal shower.

I'm afraid we'll have to agree to disagree on that one. My daughter is starting kindergarten this fall. She needs a bunch of school supplies and school clothes, for that matter. Should I host a back to school shower for her?

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

I'm afraid we'll have to agree to disagree on that one. My daughter is starting kindergarten this fall. She needs a bunch of school supplies and school clothes, for that matter. Should I host a back to school shower for her?

LOL...I dare you to do this!

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

I'm afraid we'll have to agree to disagree on that one. My daughter is starting kindergarten this fall. She needs a bunch of school supplies and school clothes, for that matter. Should I host a back to school shower for her?

I'm sorry. I should have been more clear. I'm agreeing with you. I think that all of these "showers" are ridiculous gift-grubbing shows, and your example is spot-on because it points out: why should we outfit your baby and not your kindergartener? The showers need to stop.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

I'm sorry. I should have been more clear. I'm agreeing with you. I think that all of these "showers" are ridiculous gift-grubbing shows, and your example is spot-on because it points out: why should we outfit your baby and not your kindergartener? The showers need to stop.

I get what you're saying now. Sorry!

Sciencewoman: it would be funny, but I kind of need to maintain the shreds of dignity that I have remaining.

[BraveMaroon]

So, we got an invitation to her Graduation, but they didn't have a party - which is fine - her ceremony was at 7PM the Friday of Memorial Day weekend, and we couldn't make that work.

That said, we sent her a nice card with a check (also nice, actually).

I'd love to go the party. As I said, she's a good kid and I like her and her folks. And since it's on the husband's side, I don't want to rock the boat and raise an eyebrow. I know her parents work hard and don't make tons of money, and the things on her list are definitely more "needs" than "wants".

So we'll see. I wanted to feel it out here and I appreciate the feedback.

[IndianaSigKap]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

No tackier than a baby shower or a bridal shower.

//swerve//

I was just ranting about this to a sorority sister on Saturday night. I received a baby shower invitation from a distant relative who is having her third child in less than 6 years. She has one of each already, so she does not need gender specific items nor infant most infant needs other than diapers. I am tired of this entitlement of "I am having a baby buy me things". Showers were intended to help first time parents out by giving them a head start on setting up the nursery.

And while I am ranting, full blown bridal showers for third time brides. Really? You didn't get enough items during the first two marriages? I have no problem with an engagement party to celebrate the couple or a bachelorette party to give the bride one last wild night out, but having a bridal shower? Again, bridal showers were designed to help newly married couples set up households with essentials. If you have been married multiple times, and your spouse to be has too, then you both already have households to merge.

//back into the lane

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

//swerve//

I was just ranting about this to a sorority sister on Saturday night. I received a baby shower invitation from a distant relative who is having her third child in less than 6 years. She has one of each already, so she does not need gender specific items nor infant most infant needs other than diapers. I am tired of this entitlement of "I am having a baby buy me things". Showers were intended to help first time parents out by giving them a head start on setting up the nursery.

And while I am ranting, full blown bridal showers for third time brides. Really? You didn't get enough items during the first two marriages? I have no problem with an engagement party to celebrate the couple or a bachelorette party to give the bride one last wild night out, but having a bridal shower? Again, bridal showers were designed to help newly married couples set up households with essentials. If you have been married multiple times, and your spouse to be has too, then you both already have households to merge.

//back into the lane

I totally agree with you. I dont mind showers for first babies or first weddings. I'm not cool with second, third or whatever of either variety. My only exception is perhaps a late in life oopsie baby. Because at that point, you probably really don't have any hand me downs available.

I also think the idea of bringing something you couldn't do without in the dorm is cute. Calling something a shower is just flat out a request for gifts.

[IndianaSigKap]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

My only exception is perhaps a late in life oopsie baby. Because at that point, you probably really don't have any hand me downs available. I am OK with that one too!

I also think the idea of bringing something you couldn't do without in the dorm is cute. Calling something a shower is just flat out a request for gifts.

The "items you couldn't do without" was a clever idea, much better worded than a dorm shower. I didn't mention earlier that she got quite a few $5 gift cards to Starbucks since there was one a block from her dorm. She said those were golden during finals week! I think everyone who came brought her a little something ranging from the $5 gift cards all the way up to a foldable laundry basket filled with a Tide, Downy and Bounce.