Leaving a Colony

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Okay, I took that image down.

Yes, it's his choice. That said, the choices you make are reflective of your character. If you make promises and break them, that reflects poorly. This isn't a world where we all get to always do what makes us happy and not ever be judged for it.

Not really sure who's going to judge a guy for more than a few minutes for dropping out of a fraternity. By your definition, no one is ever allowed to change his mind. That's simply ridiculous. People move on. You've never broken up with someone? Taken a new job? Cancelled dinner plans? People break promises all the time and live very happy and productive lives.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Not really sure who's going to judge a guy for more than a few minutes for dropping out of a fraternity. By your definition, no one is ever allowed to change his mind. That's simply ridiculous. People move on. You've never broken up with someone? Taken a new job? Cancelled dinner plans? People break promises all the time and live very happy and productive lives.

Poor comparisons. If you're just dating someone and break up, I don't think there's any implication in that sort of relationship that it's forever and most of the time, there's no reliance of your partner on you to take things to the next level. This would be more like divorce or breaking off an engagement, and yeah, in a situation where one party just wants some sexual novelty or something, yes, that's going to reflect on their character.

Dinner plans? I don't think you've ever been part of a colonization, or if you have, I've seen how ADPi colonizes (invests a ton of money/time, they're operating like a full-on chapter with a house after just a semester) and you probably don't have a frame of reference to be making comparisons.

[adpiucf]

No. I'm coming at this from the perspective of a new member who has been part of an organization for a few weeks or months at best. It is not the level of commitment you make it out to be and it is very easy to walk away. In addition, why would you want a member who is unhappy and resentful? It brings down the entire group. And pledging is like dating. It's a chance to test the waters before making the commitment.

I will not comment further on this, as we're not going to agree here and OP's question has been answered.