Daughter is a legacy and was cut

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by UNCalum

I'll fill you in a little on my daughter, as it might help - and your questions gee_ess are very pertinent as to why this might have happened last Fall.
She graduated first in a senior class of 26 people (SMALL private school) and her GPA was 4.6. She was Varsity Tennis and Soccer captain, active in student government, active in our church, etc. But all of this happened in a smallish town in a very small school where she's known the same people since Kindergarten. There simply weren't girls that knew her well that could stand up in those crazy bid sessions and fight for her. She only knew one current sister. Also, she's pretty quiet and tends to be shy in new situations - until she becomes comfortable, and then she is hilarious and fun. It was probably unrealistic to think she could stand out at one of the most desirable chapters at Carolina - even being a legacy. But she's grown up going to Chapel Hill for football games and has been to this house with me for Homecoming brunches since she was small. I don't blame her for picturing herself there.
It will work out for the best in the long run, I hope, and she'll find the house that she truly fits in.

For what is worth. PNM's like your daughter tend to do extremely well in spring recruitment. Formal recruitment can be difficult for shy and quiet girls. Some Chapter at UNC will be thrilled to have your daughter as a member and I have a feeling she will find her home IF she can keep an open mind. At this point she has nothing to loose. She should go to the Greek event and see what her options are and have fun!

Good luck to your daughter.

[UNCalum]

Thanks for all of the invaluable advice! You've definitely given me some tools to help guide her, and have really opened my eyes about the importance of being open-minded. I'll post again after the Monday night kickoff!

[coffeegal3]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

For what is worth. PNM's like your daughter tend to do extremely well in spring recruitment. Formal recruitment can be difficult for shy and quiet girls. Some Chapter at UNC will be thrilled to have your daughter as a member and I have a feeling she will find her home IF she can keep an open mind. At this point she has nothing to loose. She should go to the Greek event and see what her options are and have fun!

Good luck to your daughter.

Agreed. Many of my sisters who would consider themselves shy have said that informal recruitment can be a good time to show what will make you a wonderful sister (and, in your daughter's case, it looks like there are many ways she could add to the chapter) in a less overwhelming setting. And, like it has been said above, what does she have to lose?

Good luck to your daughter!