long distance relationships

[honeychile]

My DH & I were in a long distance relationship for five years prior to getting engaged, and ten more being engaged before getting married. This past year has been interesting!

Even though we talked 4-5 times a day, I never realized how many hours a day he worked! He leaves about 9am, and the earliest he's come back is 7pm. I've checked, it's honest work - seems to be the curse of the SID job (he's even typing as I write this!). I didn't realize that he didn't know how to budget or never kept a savings account, while he was amazed that I had a savings account since I was 8 years old.

It's little things like that which you miss in a long distance relationship, but if we had finished the premarital counseling like we were supposed to, they would have been covered.

One pastor friend of mine had a wonderful expression: You Gotta Wanna. If you want something badly enough, you will do whatever it takes to get it. Both DH & I are totally committed to this marriage, and have taken many steps towards maintaining it. Sure, something could come up in the future that changes this, but it won't be from the lack of trying!

In short, IMHO, a long distance relationship CAN work, but you really do gotta wanna!