Things That I'm Sick To Death of Hearing...

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also, when I tell people I may consider adopting an older kid or teen at some point:

"But why would you want someone ELSE'S kid?"
"I could never love a kid that I didn't actually give birth to."
"But why would you want to miss out on the birth experience?"
"Why wouldn't you want a baby???"

Motherhood comes in many forms. To insist that a child "is not yours" because they're adopted is really offensive. Also, not everyone wants "the baby experience."

My friend has also said that she might want to do the same thing one day. I'm one of the only people she talks to about this anymore, because everyone else criticizes her. Why is everyone caught up on the whole giving birth thing? Just because you can procreate doesn't mean you have to. And just because you don't doesn't mean you can't take care of a child and love it as if it were your own.

A few months ago, my mom mentioned the word "grandchildren" for the first time, and since then, it hasn't really stopped. When I say I don't want kids, she tells me I'll surely change my mind. She says, "Look at me.. your father and I didn't want kids, but here you are!" I always respond, "Yes, but when you were my age, I was nearly 2 years old." She clearly changed her mind long before she was my age now. She's still convinced I don't know what I want.

And now when we're around my aunts, if the topic of kids comes up, she always says how great being pregnant was and tries to get them to say the same... as though that's going to convince me to have kids.

Aaand.. she just met my boyfriend a couple weeks ago, and she LOVES him. She has NEVER said how much she likes my significant other while we're going out. Usually she just mentions the things she didn't like about them after we break up. This has only made the problem worse. Now she keeps peppering the words "wedding" and "marriage" into conversations. She always laughs and makes it sound like a joke, but I know part of her really wants it to happen.

She was never like this before. It's driving me crazy!