depledging and joining a different sorority

[Katmandu]

In September I accepted a bid from one particular sorority (that I consider lower tier and didn't plan to join and only put down on my bid card because I just KNEW I was destined for another sorority.) After spending a couple of weeks with them, however, I feel that I don't really fit in with my pledge class. (I am so much cooler and cuter and skinnier than they are and some of them are fat and don't date/OR they are all drunken whores and I wear a purity ring given to me by my Father). Also when I was going though recruitment, there were one or two other sororities that I loved and I felt I clicked with better (they were cute and had mixers with the cool frats/OR they were all Evangelical Rhodes scholars like me).

Yes. Depledge. Now. Whatever your reasons, you shouldn't be initiated into a wonderful national women's sorority feeling as you do. How do I know they are wonderful? Easy. They ALL ARE. And they deserve better. Go through recruitment next year and let us know how it goes.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

In September I accepted a bid from one particular sorority (that I consider lower tier and didn't plan to join and only put down on my bid card because I just KNEW I was destined for another sorority.) After spending a couple of weeks with them, however, I feel that I don't really fit in with my pledge class. (I am so much cooler and cuter and skinnier than they are and some of them are fat and don't date/OR they are all drunken whores and I wear a purity ring given to me by my Father). Also when I was going though recruitment, there were one or two other sororities that I loved and I felt I clicked with better (they were cute and had mixers with the cool frats/OR they were all Evangelical Rhodes scholars like me).

Yes. Depledge. Now. Whatever your reasons, you shouldn't be initiated into a wonderful national women's sorority feeling as you do. How do I know they are wonderful? Easy. They ALL ARE. And they deserve better. Go through recruitment next year and let us know how it goes.

Hahaha, oh, this post took me a minute, but well done.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by thetalady

Before you quit your current sorority, be SURE that you can accept that this may be your one & only opportunity to be Greek. The chances of pledging next year are very slim. Take us very seriously when we tell you this.

You need to really, really think about the fact that those other sororities that you loved so much did NOT extend a bid to you. The chances that they will offer you a bid next year are incredibly close to zero.

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

Honestly, if I were you I would abandon the idea of re-rushing. As some very knowledgeable women upthread noted, it's not very likely you'll get a bid from another house.

My advice (and take it for whatever it's worth!) is to stick it out with your sorority unless you're really miserable. When you graduate, you'll have the opportunity as an alumna to meet many, many other sisters and I bet you'll click with at least some of them.

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

I think the sororities would see someone who depledged as "damaged goods" (for lack of a better term). They might wonder if you depledged that other house, will you depledge them as well? Or they might think you're a whiner or a troublemaker. Not to say that you're any of these things! But that is how you may be perceived.

Wait a second! Did the OP mention anywhere in her 3 posts that she goes to some SEC school or even a competitive campus? No, she didn't! Yet you're making blanket statements that may not apply.

My campus was competitive but not to an extreme. Off the top of my head I can think of a DG pledge who depledged and became a Kappa, a Kappa who became an Alpha Phi, a KD who became a Sigma Kappa, an SDT who became a KD and a DG who became a KD (Me).

We don't know her campus.

All this talk is so condescending and could be entirely inaccurate.

Signed,
Damaged Goods

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Wait a second! Did the OP mention anywhere in her 3 posts that she goes to some SEC school or even a competitive campus? No, she didn't! Yet you're making blanket statements that may not apply.

I think that it won't fly for her, no matter how uncompetitive the school because 1) her reason is super turbo lame (I don't get along with my pledge class - I think people assumed that she is at a larger system if the only people she knows are her pledge class) and 2) there are other sororities I liked better and I know that if I rush again they will see my wonderfulness.

It's one thing to say "I pledged this sorority and I'm not happy. I quit." and then make the decision down the road to rush again, and another to say "I'm not happy because I know the other groups would be better." If she finds herself spending more time with the XYZs than her own sisters, then by all means, depledge and join XYZ at the earliest opportunity. But she hasn't given any indication that is the case.