Are some people just not meant to be in sororities?

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by 33girl

The answer to your question is...yes.

Some people have a great time at sororities at a big school with a big Greek system, but would have been MISERABLE at a smaller school with a smaller Greek system. Or vice versa. (And no, the solution is not to transfer...the solution is just to realize that your school isn't 100% perfect because the Greek life there isn't for you, and get involved in other activities.)

Some people can't deal with the rules and expectations that are there in even the most laid back of chapters.

Some people have difficulty with time management, to the point that their sorority membership is a drain on their college career.

Some people just don't want to be around that many girls, that much of the time.

I don't know if any of these apply to you, but if venting out fear here helps you get through rush, go ahead and continue to do so.

None of those really apply to me... At least most of those girls can get into a sorority. I can't...but yes I just need to vent. I wish I could share my whole story with everyone (recruitment this year and last)! Maybe after when recruitment is over?

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by Wishful

None of those really apply to me... At least most of those girls can get into a sorority. I can't...but yes I just need to vent. I wish I could share my whole story with everyone (recruitment this year and last)! Maybe after when recruitment is over?

I hope you do share your recruitment story -- while wishing you success in this one. You still have parties to attend -- hoping for a happy ending!

Good luck!

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

I hope you do share your recruitment story -- while wishing you success in this one. You still have parties to attend -- hoping for a happy ending!

Good luck!

Thanks you! Even if I don't have a happy ending, I would love to share BOTH stories so maybe I could get some insight.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Wishful

None of those really apply to me... At least most of those girls can get into a sorority. I can't...but yes I just need to vent. I wish I could share my whole story with everyone (recruitment this year and last)! Maybe after when recruitment is over?

1) We would love to hear your story once recruitment is over, provided you can tell it in a manner that will not lead to hurt feelings.

2) Some women are not successful in recruitment. We've talked about tons of reasons why around here. However, none of us know YOU. If you are unsuccessful this time around, you would be wise to ask a trusted friend if there is some real reason you are having this much trouble. There could be something about how you are presenting yourself that is causing problems for you, and if this is the case, you should find out now, because it will continue to affect you in job hunts and stuff like that.

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

1) We would love to hear your story once recruitment is over, provided you can tell it in a manner that will not lead to hurt feelings.

2) Some women are not successful in recruitment. We've talked about tons of reasons why around here. However, none of us know YOU. If you are unsuccessful this time around, you would be wise to ask a trusted friend if there is some real reason you are having this much trouble. There could be something about how you are presenting yourself that is causing problems for you, and if this is the case, you should find out now, because it will continue to affect you in job hunts and stuff like that.

Thank you! Yeah I realize you guys can't really tell me what I'm doing wrong. Maybe if you read my story next week, you'll have some insight. I honestly don't know how I'm presenting myself "wrongly" to others. Personally, I just think that there are other girls better or more suited for the chapter than me. I know that they can't take everyone. I just happen to be last on everyone's list I guess. And unless I'm on the other side of the process, I won't know exactly how it works out. It is tough to make it to that side lol.

[WhiteDaisy128]

Even if you just have a few houses left...remember, it just takes one! Good luck!

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by WhiteDaisy128

Even if you just have a few houses left...remember, it just takes one! Good luck!

Thanks for your kind words! Fingers crossed that I can make it through the last few days of recruitment.

[Ladybugmom]

Im rooting for you!! As others have said, it only takes 1 and it sounds like you have an open mind. Hang in there and keep us posted. Good Luck!

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by Ladybugmom

Im rooting for you!! As others have said, it only takes 1 and it sounds like you have an open mind. Hang in there and keep us posted. Good Luck!

Thank you! Few more days till we see my fate...

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by WhiteDaisy128

Even if you just have a few houses left...remember, it just takes one! Good luck!

THIS!!!^^^^^^

I wish you the best of luck. Don't give up on the process. Maybe you aren't meant to be in a sorority, but at least you are TRYING. Unfortunately great girls fall through the cracks. It's NOT a perfect system... but we wish you the best, and truly hope you find a home! If not, try other clubs and organizations!

[Wishful]

Originally Posted by summer_gphib

THIS!!!^^^^^^

I wish you the best of luck. Don't give up on the process. Maybe you aren't meant to be in a sorority, but at least you are TRYING. Unfortunately great girls fall through the cracks. It's NOT a perfect system... but we wish you the best, and truly hope you find a home! If not, try other clubs and organizations!

Thank you! It is not a perfect system whatsoever. My friend in a sorority at a different school has been trying to comfort me all day with how flawed the system is.