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(((hugs))) to you. It will get better; give time time. Don't wallow in it! One thing that works for me is to set a timer and say "I'm going to feel bad for X# of minutes". Seriously, it works, because I usually can't wallow for that long. What it also does is keep your mind from returning over and over to the hurt place (kind of like when your tongue keeps finding the tooth in your mouth that hurts). If I find my mind going to the hurt place, I say to myself "it's not time to think about that" and let go of the thought. It really works, it just takes practice.
And (before your other thread went off the rails), there was some good advice in there regarding what to do/how to get involved during your freshman year. You've got a lot of class and you are very brave. Please don't overanalyze "what went wrong" or pick yourself to pieces! That is not helpful right now. You need some time to heal.
Another suggestion is to keep busy with a schedule so there isn't much down time; and in that schedule make yourself scarce when the opportunity for hurt is most apparent. For example, when your hallmates are getting ready to go out to sorority-related events, be somewhere else for the time being. You don't need to expose yourself to that right now; and eventually (hopefully sooner rather than later) it won't bother or hurt so much.
In a few months, this will look completely different. Promise.
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"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity
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