Prefernce night

[Greek_or_Geek?]

It all depends on the school.

If it's the norm for PNMs to wear black and your daughter lacks the confidence to wear something different, it will affect the way she presents herself that night. She also may be looked at a little differently by some chapters for not wearing black and not necessarily in a positive way.

There is also the psychology of wearing something similar to the chapter members. I think on some level, it sends a subliminal message that "she belongs here."

That said, she should wear what she is comfortable wearing. This is her recruitment, not sorority sugar's, yours or any member of Greekchat's.

PS - You understand that by posting her school and her pref dress online that you are revealing her identity here?

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

It all depends on the school.

If it's the norm for PNMs to wear black and your daughter lacks the confidence to wear something different, it will affect the way she presents herself that night. She also may be looked at a little differently by some chapters for not wearing black and not necessarily in a positive way.

There is also the psychology of wearing something similar to the chapter members. I think on some level, it sends a subliminal message that "she belongs here."

It definitely depends on the school. A bright dress can work the other way too, though. If it fits well and is flattering, it can make a great statement and really stand out in a good way. I remember one of my now-sister's brightly colored pref dresses very well because she and I were the same size, and I was dying to borrow it -- and totally did (with permission of course!) after she was initiated!