:/

[FSUZeta]

you are right. one week is not enough time base a decision on. would you get married after only knowing a guy for one week? give it more time.

you will only grow apart from your friends if you don't make the effort to remain friends. one of my best friends at my college was in a different sorority and we remained friends. my daughters best friend was in a different sorority than her, and they have remained friends. just like learning to feel comfortable and content in your sorority takes work and time, so does maintaining an established friendship.

[33girl]

If your friend is making you feel guilty that you got in and she didn't, she really isn't being a very good friend. Make an effort to stay close with her - but if she doesn't respond and keeps making the sorority an issue between the two of you, that is HER problem, not yours.

[Meow124]

its nothing like that, shes fine with me getting in and shes even doing a different one! and she's so excited about it! i feel like my heart isn't in it because i dont see myself partying with most of these girls, or even really being friends with them. SOMETIMES i get a good feeling like this is something i want to do, but even then it's just to be able to say i'm in one. and after awhile my gut feeling comes back and i feel terrible. How do you know if youre in the right sorority because i feel like i'm not

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Meow124

i took the bid anyway thinking it was what i wanted, but i have noticed that im really not getting along with the girls and that my reasons for rushing were pretty dumb. I wanted to meet more people, and i knew it looked good on my resume, but i also like their "themes" and such.

Originally Posted by Meow124

i feel like my heart isn't in it because i dont see myself partying with most of these girls, or even really being friends with them. SOMETIMES i get a good feeling like this is something i want to do, but even then it's just to be able to say i'm in one.

Based on some of these comments, I'm not sure you really understand what you've just been invited to join. Being a part of a sorority is so much more than letters on a shirt, a few lines on a resume, or having a place to party on Friday night. For some people, it takes more than a week to see that, as well as to make true friends.

Forget about what your friends are doing. If they're truly your friends, they'll continue to consider you one, regardless of which sorority you're a member of. And if you, on your own, decide that this chapter - or Greek life in general - isn't for you, then you can drop before initiation. However, I would suggest giving it some more time. The members of this sorority saw something in you that made them want to give you a bid. Give them a chance, the same way they gave you one.