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Originally Posted by IrishLake
Some questions first....
They were initiated while you were gone, but are mostly seniors and are graduating at the end of this school year? Unusual, but not unheard of, I guess.
What about your Big? Did you have a "Kite Sis" or "Twin Star" who you bonded with during your new member period? What about the other girls in your pledge class? Did you get a chance to bond with them prior to taking your inactive status?
Just curious, it's none of my business, but why did you take a year off? Did you study abroad? But you and the boyfriend both taking a year off makes me wonder if that's not a part of the rumor mill problems.
And while I don't know your whole story, staying "inactive" may not be an option after one year. You either become active again, you ask for early alum status, or you resign your membership. If the latter is not an option (and really, it shouldn't be. They may be your sisters, but don't let them shove you out of the sisterhood), then go to someone whom you can trust and who can actually do something about it. If need be, contact an Advisor if nothing comes from your other attempts.
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I questioned the "seniors comment" also. And, FWIW, OP, we haven't used the term "standards" in a Very Long Time. (I'm not directing that at IL or at TL, I'm questioning why a relatively new member would use that term). So... is anyone else connecting any dots here?
Regardless, my second point is that "early alum status" does not exist in our Fraternity. Married members have the option of remain active, or asking for voluntary temporary inactivity. The Fraternity bylaws discuss this very specifically.
Third, why not give time time and see how things shake out in the days and weeks to come? As was pointed out in another thread on this forum, there is always going to be some friction and drama when that many people come together. Try to live by the principles of the Fraternity and see if that doesn't improve your situation. Remember, it takes two to engage and rage. You don't have to play in anyone's sandbox. You can stay "above the line" and stay out of trouble. Membership is for a lifetime, and this too shall pass.
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