First signs of a bad first date

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

During a first date last week, at the end of dinner and before the check comes, he asks,

"Hey, you wanna split this?"

I replied, "Sure!"

I feel like it is the man's responsibility to pay for dinner during the first date. After a few more then it can be split evenly; I don't even mind taking the bill if it's a place that I recommend. This wasn't an expensive dinner, either--it was Mexican. If you can't afford to do that, then just limit the first date to drinks or coffee.

Needless to say, I deleted his contact information from my phone the next day.

I feel like whoever initiates the date should pay. I've never asked a guy out, but if I did I'd offer to cover the check. Would he get bonus points if he said, "No let me?" Yes. But it wouldn't be a deal breaker if he didn't. But if he asks you out on a first date then he should at least OFFER to pay. Like you said, if you can't afford to find a cheaper place to have a date in the first place.

I will say that when I've started regularly seeing a guy I've insisted on splitting. I have two brothers and I wouldn't be thrilled for either of them to date a girl that insisted they pay her way for everything after they had been dating a while. At all. I've got sympathy for the dudes. (Or if I'm dating a guy that always wants to do dinner and a movie it's acceptable for me to get the bill one date and him the next.)

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I feel like whoever initiates the date should pay. I've never asked a guy out, but if I did I'd offer to cover the check. Would he get bonus points if he said, "No let me?" Yes. But it wouldn't be a deal breaker if he didn't. But if he asks you out on a first date then he should at least OFFER to pay. Like you said, if you can't afford to find a cheaper place to have a date in the first place.

I will say that when I've started regularly seeing a guy I've insisted on splitting. I have two brothers and I wouldn't be thrilled for either of them to date a girl that insisted they pay her way for everything after they had been dating a while. At all. I've got sympathy for the dudes. (Or if I'm dating a guy that always wants to do dinner and a movie it's acceptable for me to get the bill one date and him the next.)

I think I mentioned above that after a few dates, I'd feel uncomfortable NOT chipping in or at least offering to do so. But, this was a first date where he invited me and selected the location. The least he could have done was paid. But, it's no mind, as I was not into him for other reasons--this was just the last nail in the coffin.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

But, this was a first date where he invited me and selected the location.

Yeah, that's mega lame. Buh-bye.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think I mentioned above that after a few dates, I'd feel uncomfortable NOT chipping in or at least offering to do so. But, this was a first date where he invited me and selected the location. The least he could have done was paid. But, it's no mind, as I was not into him for other reasons--this was just the last nail in the coffin.

I feel like that's an indication that he isn't very socially aware. Or polite. Neeeeexxxtttt.