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Originally Posted by RedLipstick
Third round's results came in. I was left with the two houses I liked the least. I felt like I was being forced to join one of the houses, because I had cut it every single round!
Anyway, I did not get bid and considering that I didn't feel comfortable at any house I had left, that was probably for the best.
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Did you sign a bid card? If things were THAT bad with those 2 groups, you shouldn't have signed a bid card. If you did sign a bid card, and did not get a bid.... then, well, I don't know. I'd hate to think that perhaps those girls in those 2 groups might have provided what you were looking for, you just didn't realize it at the time.
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Originally Posted by RedLipstick
But, let me explain how devastated I was. I just had extensive surgery and went through recovery practically alone. Not many of my friends knew about my situation and the ones that did, did not provide much support. What I really needed at that moment was a group of friends that would support me.
So, I needed support.
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Like others have said, you have to tell your closest friends in order to get emotional support. What about your family, is that an option? I think any sort of coping/survivors group and/or your campus counseling center is a great idea! Being greek doesn't guaruntee you a support network right away.
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Originally Posted by RedLipstick
I also couldn't understand why I had not received a bid. I go to a great school, so grades were never an issue. I have a really secluded living situation and very small major, so I hadn't made GREAT friends yet (and still really haven't!) So, I was counting on a sorority to help.
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Just because you go to a great school doesn't mean grades were not an issue. Due to your secluded living situation, it is up to you to go out and make friends through other campus involvement opportunities. You've already recognized that you're at a disadvantage, so it's up to you to do something about it. Get involved, girl! Sure, being in a sorority may help, but it's not your only option.
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Originally Posted by RedLipstick
Fall Rush: There is a sorority recolonizing here and I would be interested in checking it out. However, I have NO clue if I would be comfortable/fit in with the types of sisters the house is looking to recruit. Since it is new on campus, and I'm not sure if I want to deal with stereotypes of a new house. (It would be easier to join a house with no/good stereotypes, you know?)
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How do you know what kind of girls the recolonizing chapter is looking for? What exactly is the stereotype of a new house? I fail to see how that is relevant. You seem a bit hung up on stereotypes... get them out of your mind!
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Originally Posted by RedLipstick
Formal Rush: First, I would be afraid that my first experience with rush would happen all over again. I would definitely not want that again! Second, I'm not sure I can! This year, my school did a trip for my major that took place partially during formal rush. They are hoping to do it again, and it's not an opportunity I can pass up. So, formal rush might not even be an option.
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School comes first. Always. If you can't do formal, then so be it. Look at informal in the fall, and look at the recolonizing chapter. You said several times you were "keeping an open mind," when really, you didn't.
Best of luck with all things, regardless of your recruitment outcome.
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