Rejected Candidate and Prominent Family Member at Institution

[Macintosh]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

Wait, I missed where "prominent family member at the institution" was anywhere near something a fraternity looked at (unless your dad was the head football coach of a Division I school, then I retract my statement).

It's not so much as the pledging and becoming a brother, it's more of the worst case scenario that would occur if I decided to drop and I had anger against them. The fear would be that I would try to get them dissolved.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Macintosh

It's not so much as the pledging and becoming a brother, it's more of the worst case scenario that would occur if I decided to drop and I had anger against them. The fear would be that I would try to get them dissolved.

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[Macintosh]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

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Yeah, I know. I didn't think that was a legit explanation and even if said fraternity DID consider it, they wouldn't be the right people to pledge under anyway.

@Gusteau Yeah, I might decided to pledge under the community service fraternity next semester or rethink the other fraternity I dropped off.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Macintosh

It's not so much as the pledging and becoming a brother, it's more of the worst case scenario that would occur if I decided to drop and I had anger against them. The fear would be that I would try to get them dissolved.

The red flag that stands out to me is that you were asking lots of questions about the bid process and pledging process. Combined with your "family member" (I assume you mean an administrator or dean of some sort) they might have thought you were just there to get info and inform on them for your parent. So yeah, I agree with the people who said you were being nosy.

But I could be completely wrong, there could have been a guy who asked 10x as many questions as you did and got a bid, and you didn't get one just because the guys thought you were a douche. We'll never know.

On another note, pledge a community service fraternity because you want to do community service. Not as a substitute for a social fraternity.

[BadCat25]

At this point it doesn't matter why they didn't give you a bid. The fact is that they didn't. You must let it go and move on. Don't try to rerush these guys. Drop them completely. Never have anything to do with them ever again. See if you can join another fraternity, if that is even possible at this point. If not, become involved in a student organization and leave greek life behind.

[Macintosh]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

At this point it doesn't matter why they didn't give you a bid. The fact is that they didn't. You must let it go and move on. Don't try to rerush these guys. Drop them completely. Never have anything to do with them ever again. See if you can join another fraternity, if that is even possible at this point. If not, become involved in a student organization and leave greek life behind.

Okay, thank you.

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

At this point it doesn't matter why they didn't give you a bid. The fact is that they didn't. You must let it go and move on. Don't try to rerush these guys. Drop them completely. Never have anything to do with them ever again. See if you can join another fraternity, if that is even possible at this point. If not, become involved in a student organization and leave greek life behind.

Agree 100%. As much as it hurts to be in your situation, but that's the truth. I really wish you all the best. I promise, this too shall pass, even though it stings right now.

[Macintosh]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Agree 100%. As much as it hurts to be in your situation, but that's the truth. I really wish you all the best. I promise, this too shall pass, even though it stings right now.

Thanks. I guess it felt like a bad rejectance at best, betrayal at worst, even though they didn't have to (or need to) guarantee me a bid (although they did do that for some freshmen).

I will probably go through rushing again and look at other opportunities. Like I said before, maybe I'll re-look at the other fraternity that I passed up on as well as some of the other fraternities I didn't get to know well. I guess I'll also cut down on the specifics so I don't look like I'm trying to do any spying or anything like that. However, I'll playing the field as a Junior now instead of a Sophomore.

[angels&angles]

Originally Posted by Macintosh

Thanks. I guess it felt like a bad rejectance at best, betrayal at worst, even though they didn't have to (or need to) guarantee me a bid (although they did do that for some freshmen).

I will probably go through rushing again and look at other opportunities. Like I said before, maybe I'll re-look at the other fraternity that I passed up on as well as some of the other fraternities I didn't get to know well. I guess I'll also cut down on the specifics so I don't look like I'm trying to do any spying or anything like that. However, I'll playing the field as a Junior now instead of a Sophomore.

not a word, but I think I may use it from now on. Is rejectance the masculine form of rejectment?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by angels&angles

Is rejectance the masculine form of rejectment?

Originally Posted by Macintosh

@angels&angles The same rules that apply to acceptance applies to rejectance.

I don't know about you, but I've never heard of anyone receiving a rejectance letter before..