Overconfident Mothers?

[BraveMaroon]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

bravemaroon,did your roommate give it another try?

It's a shame - she didn't. There was a house where she wasn't a legacy that she liked a lot, but they cut her just before Prefs. It left her with two houses that she didn't like (both of which were favorites of mine, one of which had cut me - and she was nasty about it to me).

She tried to COB, but none of the 'good' houses were doing it (her words). *My* house was doing it - but she had been so insistent to my sisters that she was going Legacy, they weren't interested (plus, she'd been so rude to me, I wasn't about to put my rep on the line for her).

She started dating a guy whose fraternity brothers all had sisters at a certain house (one of the two that hadn't cut her), but she had been so disdainful of them, they finally washed their hands of her, too.

So, she never went anywhere. And it's a shame - because two great houses actively wanted to pledge her. Talk about dragging Cinderella back to the castle!

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

So, she never went anywhere. And it's a shame - because two great houses actively wanted to pledge her. Talk about dragging Cinderella back to the castle!

Major life lesson for all overconfident mothers here: your precious Cinderella will never be brought back to any castle if she is a rotten, spoiled, stuck-up brat.

[arrowlady]

I saw this thread and had to laugh. I have a friend that is the same way about her daughter (one of my daughter's best friends). Daughter wants to go greek in college. Mom was not in a sorority, Dad was in a fraternity so he is now expert on Recruitment. I was talking about the need for Recs and was told well "Susie" wants to be a Kappa and because her Aunt was she will have no problem getting in.... Tried to explain that not getting recs for every house possible is crazy that many girls do not even get houses.

I told my friend that couldn't be farther from the truth no matter what she has heard. I told her I would be happy to write a Rec for her daughter when the time came for our girls to go off to college. I was told later (after she spoke to her husband) that it would not needed.....

So I guess that will be one less Rec to write next year....

[carnation]

I would love to hear how these recruitments go!

[arrowlady]

Originally Posted by carnation

I would love to hear how these recruitments go!

I promise to post when we finally get there. They are juniors now and I am already nervous.....

[33girl]

Originally Posted by arrowlady

I told my friend that couldn't be farther from the truth no matter what she has heard. I told her I would be happy to write a Rec for her daughter when the time came for our girls to go off to college. I was told later (after she spoke to her husband) that it would not needed.....

So I guess that will be one less Rec to write next year....

Write a rec for her anyway, once you find out where she's going to school. It's not her fault that her dad is the captain on the HMS Dipshit.

[carnation]

unless the daughter is sailing on that same ship!

[baci]

I have read this thread and my head spins!

I live in reality and I know what my daughter is up against these days in recruitment as I stay very active with my org. It is called life! I am one of those people that find it truly sad that countless young girls that have the recs, grades, resume, and the connections don't receive bids. Many of the young ladies would have made excellent members and yes, they have been groomed for generations. Sure, I don't know each and every reason they were denied and it may very well be because "they" blew it, but I know all too many times it is not that reason.

I know numerous times young women are chosen because they are beautiful and pretty much that is it. They have that "look of the year" and it will provide them a nice invitation to numerous orgs. Sure, they have the minimum required GPA, but if you stack up everything else next to many of the well prepared PNMS that beauty comes up short. I have seen this even with sophomores going through at competitve schools and they receive bids. This is what I call part of life and moms need to wake up.

Sure, my daughter will be prepared, but it is way out of her hands on so many levels. I think as a mother you have to live in reality and be honest with your child. You have to have the basics and then some, but even that isn't enough where I live for my daughter to receive a bid.

[arrowlady]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Write a rec for her anyway, once you find out where she's going to school. It's not her fault that her dad is the captain on the HMS Dipshit.

LOL That just made me spew coffee all over my screen

Great statement!

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Write a rec for her anyway, once you find out where she's going to school. It's not her fault that her dad is the captain on the HMS Dipshit.

For the freakin' win!