A Word of Caution to PNMs

[U Go Glen Coco!]

Originally Posted by carnation

We've had many wonderful recruitment threads written by parents...one of the best was justamom's thread in 2001 with her followup a year later! Another one was by a mom whose daughter went Theta at Auburn, another by the mom of a USM Phi Mu, and I can even think of several good threads written by dads! They didn't come off as creepily overinvolved but simply as good reads.

If there's a slim chance that a recruitment thread can jeopardize their daughter's recruitment/sorority experience, why take the risk?

They were good reads, but let's face it -- not all our collegiate members are nice and sweet. Some of them are just plain bitchy these days and will do anything to sabotage an innocent girl's rush. Why even give them the ammo?

[LadyLonghorn]

Things are very different than they were even five or ten years ago. This is not the internet or GC of 2001.

It's irresponsible for a parent to do anything that might negatively affect and/or embarrass their child here or anywhere else. Even if you ask your daughter if it's ok to put her story here, that is putting a decision in the hands of a teenager who is just beginning to learn to be on her own and she may not fully comprehend the short and long term consequences. You're supposed to be the level headed adult.

The people who are saying "go for it" are parents and alumnae. No matter how involved you are with a chapter or your daughter, you honestly have no idea what really happens as an active now. Why in the world would you want to risk your child's happiness to fulfill your need to spill?

I can tell you with 100% certainty that a parent's story here seriously impaired a daughter's recruitment this fall. The parent was warned numerous times, both in PMs and in public, to stop but they didn't. The parent only finally realized what they had done once the recruitment ended with a disappointing bid.

I post these kinds of warnings only with the best interest of the PNMs in mind. I don't do them to get a reaction. Don't turn yourself or your daughter into that girl.

[U Go Glen Coco!]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

Things are very different than they were even five or ten years ago. This is not the internet or GC of 2001.

It's irresponsible for a parent to do anything that might negatively affect and/or embarrass their child here or anywhere else. Even if you ask your daughter if it's ok to put her story here, that is putting a decision in the hands of a teenager who is just beginning to learn to be on her own and she may not fully comprehend the short and long term consequences. You're supposed to be the level headed adult.

The people who are saying "go for it" are parents and alumnae. No matter how involved you are with a chapter or your daughter, you honestly have no idea what really happens as an active now. Why in the world would you want to risk your child's happiness to fulfill your need to spill?

I can tell you with 100% certainty that a parent's story here seriously impaired a daughter's recruitment this fall. The parent was warned numerous times, both in PMs and in public, to stop but they didn't. The parent only finally realized what they had done once the recruitment ended with a disappointing bid.

I post these kinds of warnings only with the best interest of the PNMs in mind. I don't do them to get a reaction. Don't turn yourself or your daughter into that girl.

Is the link to that story still here? Or have the mods moved it to the darkside?

[carnation]

Several mods have no idea which story you're talking about. The only stories we can think of are ones in which girls shot themselves in the foot. Possibly there could have been stories where due to various factors like grades, the girl had a bad chance in the first place but we don't remember a mom tanking her daughter's recruitment.