Question/dilemma to any member of Kappa Alpha Psi

BluPhire · #1 08-18-2010, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Tre 1

I have a question to any of the Kappas on here, if there is any. I didn't feel comfortable asking this on PP or Black Greek Forum because there are too many Kappas posting on them, and most of them didn't seem to be very friendly. Are there any Kappas posting on here? because I didn't see any. If there are I just have a question. I'm actually down to be on line this fall and I won't say which school. There's a total of 5 of us that are pledging this fall, and I feel very fortunate to be one of the 5. The problem is this summer I started hanging out with one of the members girl. She and I live in the same city and have known each other since highschool. We've always been friends, nothing more, nothing less. Eventually, one thing led to another and I had sex with her. She knows how much I want to be a Kappa, and she's been with her boyfriend for 2 years, so we decided to keep it under wraps. I'm just afraid that it's going to get out, so I'm wondering if I should just tell him and get it over with. I'm just afraid that if he finds out or even if I do tell him, I'll get cut from line. For the Kappas on here who have girls if a line member had sex with your girl and told you the truth, would you tell him he can't be down anymore? I'm just need some advice. Thanks in advance.

Tre

I finally get to use this:

Well I hope it was worth it because you just killed your Kappa experience.

And if they make you a brother you have also brought a reproach on the chapter because best believe when it comes out (and it will because it takes two to have sex so there was a reason why she slept with you) other orgs on campus WILL use it against the Kappas at "unofficial" informationals.

Believe before I became frat, the orgs that were targeting me told me all the dirt on the other chapters....unfortunately it was only one chapter that had real dirt and not smack talk.

And the fact that it is only 5 on your line means you either go to a small HBCU or a PWI with a small group of minorities. So its really gonna come out.

Tre 1 · #2 08-18-2010, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by BluPhire

I finally get to use this:

Well I hope it was worth it because you just killed your Kappa experience.

And if they make you a brother you have also brought a reproach on the chapter because best believe when it comes out (and it will because it takes two to have sex so there was a reason why she slept with you) other orgs on campus WILL use it against the Kappas at "unofficial" informationals.

Believe before I became frat, the orgs that were targeting me told me all the dirt on the other chapters....unfortunately it was only one chapter that had real dirt and not smack talk.

And the fact that it is only 5 on your line means you either go to a small HBCU or a PWI with a small group of minorities. So its really gonna come out.

No it wasn't worth it. It was one of those things that just happened. Yes, I attend a HBCU, and that's what I'm afraid of. I'm afraid of it getting out. That's what I'm asking. Should I tell him when I get back to school before it gets out? or should I wait until the pledge process is over with, and then tell him? I'm thinking that if I wait until the end, he'll eventually squash it. I just don't want to get cut. I've been wanting to be a Kappa since I can remember, and now that I've been picked to get on line, I just don't want to get this far just to get cut. We only had sex once, and I even stopped hanging out with her so it wouldn't happen again.