How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I'm so lucky my mom was sane and mature and even though I was the one to rank her chapter lower than Sigma Kappa, she never would have THOUGHT about taking it out on me, my happiness, my new chapter or the collegiate chapter of her sorority.

It seems that (with many alumnae) it's often acceptable for their daughter to release the chapter, but not for the chapter to release their daughter.

Originally Posted by Happy Mom

I would have loved for her to pledge any of the Sororities.

Did she withdraw from recruitment?

[Happy Mom]

Originally Posted by lyrelyre

Did she withdraw from recruitment?

No she was "released" the morning of Pref Day. She was asked back to several houses and kept her options open but was cut.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by Happy Mom

No she was "released" the morning of Pref Day. She was asked back to several houses and kept her options open but was cut.

My heart hurts for you and your daughter. It sounds to me that the other sororities who were interested in her thought it was a "done deal" that she would go ADPi. If she's sincerely interested in Greek Life, I hope she gives it another try and is successful. She's already WAL with a mother like you!

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by Happy Mom

No she was "released" the morning of Pref Day. She was asked back to several houses and kept her options open but was cut.

I may be way off base, but maybe recieving 20-30 letters of rec kind of put the chapter off... I mean 3, or 4, or even 5 might be reasonable, but if I were reading through 30 recs for one girl, I'd be pretty annoyed, and maybe even think she had some kind of an attitude... regardless of whether or not that's true. Who knows though, it could've been anything. I hope she'll consider re-rushing in the future, and I'm glad to hear she's been doing other things and still having a good college experience.