Could I Fit In ..?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

How is your GF going to feel being left out of these, particularly when you're off partying with a fraternity or you can't bring her to your formal?

Why would she not be able to bring her girlfriend to formal (assuming she gets a bid)?

Secondly, no one has brought this up yet, but as a transfer upperclassman, you'll need recs from alumnae. Recs are vital for freshmen and even more important for non-freshmen. If the deadlines have not already passed, register with the Alumnae Panhellenic closest to your home or find sorority women through your own network.

[33girl]

She has lots of other things (like the over-focus on Kappa and the upperclassman thing) that have kept people from getting a bid before we even touch on the queer issue. And yes, that word is in "take it back" mode.

[LadyLonghorn]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Why would she not be able to bring her girlfriend to formal (assuming she gets a bid)?

Secondly, no one has brought this up yet, but as a transfer upperclassman, you'll need recs from alumnae. Recs are vital for freshmen and even more important for non-freshmen. If the deadlines have not already passed, register with the Alumnae Panhellenic closest to your home or find sorority women through your own network.

You really don't know how things work down here. Just leave it at that.

At least with the big Texas schools where recommendations are required NO MATTER WHAT A PNM'S CLASS STANDING she is already way behind if she hasn't made arrangements for them already.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

You really don't know how things work down here. Just leave it at that.

If a chapter is so homophobic as to not allow a member to bring her girlfriend, they wouldn't offer her a bid in the first place.

Not like this is relevant in this specific situation, because if UT is indeed the school in question, she's not likely to get a bid because of her age and lack of recs, regardless of her sexual orientation.

[LadyLonghorn]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

If a chapter is so homophobic as to not allow a member to bring her girlfriend, they wouldn't offer her a bid in the first place.

Not like this is relevant in this specific situation, because if UT is indeed the school in question, she's not likely to get a bid because of her age and lack of recs, regardless of her sexual orientation.

Which is exactly what I said in the first place. Her being a lesbian is much further down the list of her recruitment "liabilities."

Not everyone is open to having gay couples at their formals. I would think that would be something an out lesbian would want to find out during recruitment because I hardly think she'd want a bid from a chapter that were less than welcoming to that.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by TexasPNM13

Though I do have my heart set on this sorority, I have definitely planned to go through recruitment with an open mind.

Kind of hard to be open minded when your heart is set, isn't it?

As for deleting the thread, you can't. You can ask a moderator to do it, but it'll be up to them whether to do it or not.

Good luck.