Boyfriend Question (please help)

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by luvdrunk

Thank you guys for not making light of this situation, and handling it with care. My parents don't like him (reason that has nothing to do with what I've listed here, and one that he absolutely can't change), so they want me to break it off anyways. I'm going away next month and I think that will be good relief for me. I tried to tell him over video chat what I planned on doing and he used manipulative language to try to win me back (a spent three years on my life on you... etc). He also said I should break up with him in person. I said that if I saw him I would call the cops and get a restraining order. He said I need to cool off and then we’ll talk again. At this point I’ve blocked his phone # for calls, Skype and Facebook. The only way he can talk to me is g-talk and that will be blacked too after we discuss everything again. I’m debating calling my phone co., and asking them if they can block his texts. I’m also thinking of getting my youth pastor involved. He was involved last time, and has ministered to both of us for some time (so it won't be completely one sided). He’s also trained/experienced in counseling, and was actually pushing me towards breaking up with “Bob.” I live in an on campus apartment and its crazy how he got in (part of it was my roommates not knowing what happened before and letting him in because they knew who he was). He doesn't know where I'm living this summer or fall, and I think it’s working to my advantage right now. I already feel a bit safer and happier, although I don’t want to “count my chickens before they hatch” so-to-speak.

Thanks y'all

Good for you. You made the right decision, I bet if you stayed, in a few years he would be super abusive and no one deserves that.

[luvdrunk]

Originally Posted by twinkle555

Good for you. You made the right decision, I bet if you stayed, in a few years he would be super abusive and no one deserves that.

Ironically he doesn't believe that I am being serious. He thinks I'm being rash. I'm giving it one day to settle in, and I'm supposed to G-Talk him tomorrow to make sure he gets it. If he doesn't at that point, too bad.

Thanks again y'all

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by luvdrunk

Ironically he doesn't believe that I am being serious. He thinks I'm being rash. I'm giving it one day to settle in, and I'm supposed to G-Talk him tomorrow to make sure he gets it. If he doesn't at that point, too bad.

Thank y'all again

Keep it short sweet and to the point.

Also I would put his history of being violent out there in the light during the conversation so he doesn't even get it confused in his mind that it is someone else in the relationship. You will not be a victim.