should i stay...or should i go?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jojocircus

hi,
i'm not looking for anyone to give me a definite answer, b/c i know that's not possible, but i am in a very strange situation regarding "my" sorority. i say "my" b/c i was never officially initiated..and recruitment is coming up.

sorry...im trying to find the words to explain my situation, but basically due to a number of things i was not initiated and its supposed to happen in the fall. i should be excited abt this, however they were not my first choice..or even my second. i said i would except the bid b/c i thought i would get my first choice(not smart/nice i knw)everyone kept telling me to just go through new member period to see how i felt...now they're telling me to get initiated and see if my feelings change as an active. problem is if i get initiated thats it. if i dnt like it i cant go anywhere else so now is my only chance. it is not as if these are bad girls, or if i dont believe in some of the things they stand for, but i always thought the sorority you are in is supposed to feel like"family" and when i go to my sorority house it should feel like home. i have yet to make any true connections(its been a year!) should it be this hard? how did you feel when you accepted you bid?how do you feel now?

i knw this was a lot to read so any advice, or experiences would be greatly appreciated

There are actually quite a few threads around here about similar topics, I suggest giving them a read because your feelings are not uncommon (not knowing whether you want to stay or go). There is some good advcie in them. Good luck to you with your decisions.

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=112091

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ghlight=choice

[ree-Xi]

I know that this isn't done much anymore, but at some chapters/schools, initiation held over until you come back from the following semester (for grade purposes). If you don't have the GPA when initiation comes, you are held over (and have to re-pledge) until the next semester's grades are out (if they improve).

My school and chapter (AXiD) did this. I don't know how common this is or if that still happens (formal recruitment is now deferred for freshman), but it was normal for all chapters on my campus at the time.

Not sure if this is the same issue, but I wanted to share my experience.