First signs of a bad first date

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

LOL!! I've never been one to have someone call with an "emergency." That takes too much work. If it isn't working, it just isn't and I'll tell them so. It's not working so I think we should end this date. I don't need to waste my good free night time minutes having someone call to pretend to need me. I'm too grown for that.

One time, when I shared that it wasn't working, he stormed out of the restaurant and was going to leave me there. I now have a FakeCall app on my Droid that I can pre-set to "call" me, making it look like it's one of my kids. I do use it..lol.

I got a real phone call from my daughter on my first date with HD. He told me later he thought it was "the call" and was surprised that I dealt with her issue and didn't leave. The phone things all change once you have kids. You can't ignore calls from your kids, especially when they are home alone.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AGDee

One time, when I shared that it wasn't working, he stormed out of the restaurant and was going to leave me there. I now have a FakeCall app on my Droid that I can pre-set to "call" me, making it look like it's one of my kids. I do use it..lol.

Do you really need a fake call to excuse yourself from a date? LOL.

Originally Posted by AGDee

You can't ignore calls from your kids, especially when they are home alone.

True.

I think the first date breaker is in how people handle such calls.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Do you really need a fake call to excuse yourself from a date? LOL.

I do it now because being honest about "I'm not feeling the chemistry that you seem to be feeling" resulted in a pretty violent reaction. When I say "stormed" out, I mean, slammed down his silverware on the table, got up and started to walk out. I threw money on the table for the waitress and ran to follow him. I got into his car to have him drive me back to my car (about a mile away). He drove like a total maniac and shoved me out of the car as soon as I opened the car door to get out. That one date made me never say that during the date and NEVER go anywhere in his car on the first date either. We live and learn

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I do it now because being honest about "I'm not feeling the chemistry that you seem to be feeling" resulted in a pretty violent reaction. When I say "stormed" out, I mean, slammed down his silverware on the table, got up and started to walk out. I threw money on the table for the waitress and ran to follow him. I got into his car to have him drive me back to my car (about a mile away). He drove like a total maniac and shoved me out of the car as soon as I opened the car door to get out. That one date made me never say that during the date and NEVER go anywhere in his car on the first date either. We live and learn

Wow.

I don't understand mess like that. If a date isn't working out, so be it. I'm not gonna get all butthurt because there's no chemistry. I hate when my friends come back with stories about "Man, that bitch was this-and-that! She was boring and made the date suck and said nothing would come of this!"

I'm like "Why are y'all so damn mad? Was she the last single woman in the city? Get over it."

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Wow.

I don't understand mess like that. If a date isn't working out, so be it. I'm not gonna get all butthurt because there's no chemistry. I hate when my friends come back with stories about "Man, that bitch was this-and-that! She was boring and made the date suck and said nothing would come of this!"

I'm like "Why are y'all so damn mad? Was she the last single woman in the city? Get over it."

I know personally if the date looks like it is going to be bad, I make it a great date regardless.

I had a date with a chick with no conversation and I said to myself I would never have an awkward moment like that again...so if I know it is going to be bad...I can at least have some fun. Not gonna see the person again.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I do it now because being honest about "I'm not feeling the chemistry that you seem to be feeling" resulted in a pretty violent reaction. When I say "stormed" out, I mean, slammed down his silverware on the table, got up and started to walk out. I threw money on the table for the waitress and ran to follow him. I got into his car to have him drive me back to my car (about a mile away). He drove like a total maniac and shoved me out of the car as soon as I opened the car door to get out. That one date made me never say that during the date and NEVER go anywhere in his car on the first date either. We live and learn

We definitely live and learn. In hindsight, it's easy to say that you shouldn't have gotten in the car with him. I'd rather walk to my car a mile away than get in the car after telling a man that I'm not feeling the chemistry and he slammed down his silverware.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

We definitely live and learn. In hindsight, it's easy to say that you shouldn't have gotten in the car with him. I'd rather walk to my car a mile away than get in the car after telling a man that I'm not feeling the chemistry and he slammed down his silverware.

Oh yeah, it was January and about 6 degrees out too. If it was summer, I'd have probably walked it.

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I do it now because being honest about "I'm not feeling the chemistry that you seem to be feeling" resulted in a pretty violent reaction. When I say "stormed" out, I mean, slammed down his silverware on the table, got up and started to walk out. I threw money on the table for the waitress and ran to follow him. I got into his car to have him drive me back to my car (about a mile away). He drove like a total maniac and shoved me out of the car as soon as I opened the car door to get out. That one date made me never say that during the date and NEVER go anywhere in his car on the first date either. We live and learn

Hmmm, I guess my problem with this is that my mother always told me to carry enough money to be able to call a cab. If he was acting like that, I would have been afraid he would have tried to harm me, I would NOT have gotten back into his vehicle.