The question "when are you going to have kids?"

[ree-Xi]

I've answered "never" and people have the audacity to ask "why not". Oh, that boils my blood. Hubby says people are just making conversation, but it's rude, and the reasons why I am not having kids still make my heart break.

I also hate hearing "you can always adopt", but again, with my health issues, I couldn't take care of a child as I would see fit, and it's likely that I wouldn't see the kid graduate. I could never knowingly put any child through that.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I've answered "never" and people have the audacity to ask "why not". Oh, that boils my blood. Hubby says people are just making conversation, but it's rude, and the reasons why I am not having kids still make my heart break.

I also hate hearing "you can always adopt", but again, with my health issues, I couldn't take care of a child as I would see fit, and it's likely that I wouldn't see the kid graduate. I could never knowingly put any child through that.

One of these times you should just tell them that and see them squirm! It's really no ones business but your own. I don't want them for my own selfish reasons, and I'm so tired of everyone assuring me that I will one day. How in the world do they know that I just can't have them and that their words aren't tearing me up inside? I'm sorry people are so unintentionally cruel, ree-Xi!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

One of these times you should just tell them that and see them squirm!

I agree. Tell them exactly why, and hopefully they'll learn a lesson and never ask such asinine questions of anyone ever again.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

One of these times you should just tell them that and see them squirm! It's really no ones business but your own. I don't want them for my own selfish reasons, and I'm so tired of everyone assuring me that I will one day. How in the world do they know that I just can't have them and that their words aren't tearing me up inside? I'm sorry people are so unintentionally cruel, ree-Xi!

Originally Posted by 33girl

I agree. Tell them exactly why, and hopefully they'll learn a lesson and never ask such asinine questions of anyone ever again.

Oh, sometimes I do. I have left a few people with jaws dropped and I have to say, I don't regret it.

That's usually when hubby breaks out the "people are just making conversation." I know that he knows it kills me inside, and he's just trying to make me feel better.