Did you have support?

CopterDad · #1 04-26-2010, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

Why do you care whether your boyfriend's family and friends and your neighbors think its a good idea?

She needs recommendations.

MysticCat · #2 04-26-2010, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by CopterDad

She needs recommendations.

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

ree-Xi · #3 04-26-2010, 02:37 PM

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

MaggieXi · #4 04-26-2010, 03:21 PM

Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.

Aerylle · #5 04-26-2010, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by MaggieXi

Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.

I'm doing just that. I have contacted everyone I know that has joined one, but so far, they haven't gotten back to me on who wrote their recs/if they can write me one. I've tried locating the local alumni group with little luck. I'd ask on here but I'm too paranoid to say where I live. Ha ha.

ree-Xi · #6 04-26-2010, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Aerylle

I'm doing just that. I have contacted everyone I know that has joined one, but so far, they haven't gotten back to me on who wrote their recs/if they can write me one. I've tried locating the local alumni group with little luck. I'd ask on here but I'm too paranoid to say where I live. Ha ha.

Plus, since no one knows you, you are really A. taking a chance that someone could send in a No-Rec, or B. feel kind of used. Your "joking" last sentence leads me to believe my first gut feeling - that you were looking for someone here to hook you up.

Are you a sophomore? Know ANY current Greeks on a first-name basis? Ask them for suggestions on where to go to meet/talk to alumnae who might be willing to meet you and write a rec. (Note: chapters may or may not accept recs from CURRENT chapter members). Instead of saying "do you know anyone who...?", ask "who do you personally know that might be able to point me in the direction of alumnae to meet?"

Have you read the RECRUITMENT forum??

Aerylle · #7 04-26-2010, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Plus, since no one knows you, you are really A. taking a chance that someone could send in a No-Rec, or B. feel kind of used. Your "joking" last sentence leads me to believe my first gut feeling - that you were looking for someone here to hook you up.

Are you a sophomore? Know ANY current Greeks on a first-name basis? Ask them for suggestions on where to go to meet/talk to alumnae who might be willing to meet you and write a rec. (Note: chapters may or may not accept recs from CURRENT chapter members). Instead of saying "do you know anyone who...?", ask "who do you personally know that might be able to point me in the direction of alumnae to meet?"

Have you read the RECRUITMENT forum??

Okay, I am NOT here looking for that (look at my previous post, I never asked if someone could write me one, I asked where to find locals to write me one).

No, I'm not a sophomore. I will be a freshman. It's a really long story that I'd rather not re-hash back out. I have read the recruitment forum, I've spent long hours pouring over my schools recruitment stories, tips and tricks, bad advice, stories with both good and bad endings. I <3 the recruitment forum.

Aerylle · #8 04-26-2010, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

A. taking a chance that someone could send in a No-Rec, or B. feel kind of used.

"No-rec"?

Aerylle · #9 04-26-2010, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

Nope. I graduated last year.

And, sadly, no. None of my friends are interested in going Greek. They think its silly and all the nasty rumors about greek life is true. ]:

Aerylle · #10 04-26-2010, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

That is true (so far, haven't contacted everyone yet). But either way, someone might have a family member or a co-worker or something. You never know where you'll find someone.