How to break stereotypes?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by mary_bubbles

I am new to the greek life and am don't understand the whole stereotype reasons. 1 group is "fat girls" or the "rich girls" but it usually only a handful out of the like 40 members. Everyones site information says for a place for girls to become women and belong. How can you belong if before you join you are being labeled a "nerd" or even "princess"? The nerd girl might not even have as hight of a GPA as the princess. The ones I didn't join seem to only want clones of themselves and enjoy their labels? I hope to make friends with many girls who enjoy things I don't and I like things they don't love. We aren't one sided but 3-D

Um, I am really not following what you're asking here.

I would like to point out that you saying that other chapters only want clones of themselves is a stereotype on your part.

[mary_bubbles]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Um, I am really not following what you're asking here.

I would like to point out that you saying that other chapters only want clones of themselves is a stereotype on your part.

Maybe it is just insecurity on my part but I felt really down since I wasn't from here originally I felt out of a place when some girls would walk in and were given the attention because of matching hair styles or because they loved that cute belt! It was the girls during rush that informed me on what the opinions of each were so as an outsider I observed that not everyone was that specific mold but the girls described themselves all in a whole as the image. I am not saying it is a bad image if it motivates the girls but it just feels like how can everyone be accepted if they have to fit a certain label from the start even ones that the members think of as themselves? Surely interest to bond you aren't beauty pagents or loving vodka.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by mary_bubbles

Maybe it is just insecurity on my part but I felt really down since I wasn't from here originally I felt out of a place when some girls would walk in and were given the attention because of matching hair styles or because they loved that cute belt! It was the girls during rush that informed me on what the opinions of each were so as an outsider I observed that not everyone was that specific mold but the girls described themselves all in a whole as the image. I am not saying it is a bad image if it motivates the girls but it just feels like how can everyone be accepted if they have to fit a certain label from the start even ones that the members think of as themselves? Surely interest to bond you aren't beauty pagents or loving vodka.

How do you even know what made some chapters interested in certain PNMs?

How do you know that someone was given attention JUST because of their belt? What if a sister just genuinely liked the belt and made a comment? For all you know, a sister could have been giving a girl attention because they both studied abroad in the same country for the summer. Something like a purse or a belt may strike initial interest, but it takes more than that to get a bid.

For you to assume that a girl only got attention from a chapter because of her clothing makes it sound like you have some sour grapes going on because they cut you or didn't give you a bid.

And finally, how do you know that sisters are solely bonded by their interests in "beauty pageants and vodka?" You can't presume to know that every single girl in X or Y chapter is only interested in ___ or XYZ chapter only wanted Suzie because she's _____.

I'm really not trying to be mean, but you are making alot of assumptions regarding chapters that you aren't a part of.