Daughter's friend's recruitment

[aggieadpi_01]

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

sorry but i dont care what you all think.

Then WHY did you come here?

[RebelCheerBabii]

i was hoping to get some advice. i was and still am really nervous about rush. im afraid ill end up in a house i dont fit with with girls who may be nice but just arent like me. im worried about figuring out if i fit with the house. how can a house know youll fit with them or vice versa after just a few minutes???? im just nervous and was hoping to get some help from greeks but nobody seems willing to help which honestly isnt making me feel much better about rushing.

[ellebud]

I do not consider this a derailment of a thread. It is really a first look at what can happen to derail a recruitment that ends in a, "Why Wasn't I Chosen?" thread.

My youngest was a model (professional, not department store) and an actress (you might kind of vaguely think you knew her from somewhere when you saw her in the street kind of actress). NEVER did she think that she was a shoe in for the best house on campus. NEVER was she rude or condescending to her fellow pnms or Actives in ANY house. And frankly, she could have been difficult. But I like to think that she just knew better.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Jen

We figured it out just from this thread; I'm sure the houses will have no problem.

lolz!

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

Since all you guys seem to care about is spelling and grammar, here you go. It seems kind of pointless to type all of this out when it's just the internet, but if everyone is going to judge me I might as well prove I'm not a bimbo.

I WILL go through recruitment in the fall because I DO know my stats (sorry...statistics ) are competitive enough to get me wherever I want. You can doubt me all you want, but I know my worth.

I also know I don't need to waste my time with a bunch of losers like you who have no life and sit in front of a computer instead of talking to real people. I hope to god my sisters aren't lilke all of you!

WHATEVER! I do what I want!

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

why does everyone in this site think im going to be mean to people when i go through rush?!?!?

Because you said this:

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

but what if the place that fits you is the most popular house??????? i mean i might date the quarterback if i thought itd get someone else to notice me, just like i might date a total nerd if i thought itd make the quarterback jealous maby thats what this girl was doing with those other houses so she could get into the one she wanted????? it just seams like if u kno what house is right for u, u should go for that house and not care what any of the other houses think!!!

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

you pepole dont know me and have never met me therefore you have no idea how id be in recruitment. i woudnt dream of being rude to someone just cuz im not sure i fit in with there house cuz i know that for other girls that house i dont like is there dream house!! thats totally fine with me...........thats why there are different sororities to choose from!

I'm glad to hear that. Now we are getting somewhere.

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

as far as connectiosn go, your right........i dont have them. in fact, i have no college connections as im the first in my family to go to a four year college. im very proud of that fact and dont appreciate you insulting my family or my background. if being greek is all about who you know, then your right i wont get in. but if its about who you are and what youve done with your life with sports and grades and stuff then ya, i think i have a pretty good shot. irregardless i wouldnt want to be apart of something thats all about who you know and who your daddy knows anyway!!!!!!!

I wasn't insulting your family or your background (I assume your perception of that was in a different thread). I just wanted to clue you in that, at SOME schools, connections do matter A LOT. My alma mater is not one of them. I am the first one to go Greek in my family. I did not know anyone Greek before I joined (rather, I did not know people I knew were Greek), and I did not have any recs. All I was trying to get across were that your grades/scores/activities will not be enough at certain schools if you don't have connections, or recs at least.

I truly do wish you the best of luck during recruitment. I hate the fact that at some schools, the average girl with a lot of desire to get involved in a chapter is unfairly disadvantaged because she doesn't know the right people.

Once you decide where you are going to school, I'd recommend registering with a new username and doing more reading than posting. There are some really great comprehensive threads on GC, and then you can ask more specific questions.

[crescent&pearls]

Re-routing to the young lady originally at the heart of this cautionary tale. It's not out of the realm of possibly that her "colony" experience was ended for her with a polite "no thank you" making it possible for her to participate in informal recruitment in the same school year. I'm thinking that a parent who goes to the trouble of getting involved with the Greek life office over their daughter's recruitment/membership issues gets promoted from "heli" parent to ultimate nuclear submarine parent, pretty much eliminating the possiblity of their daughter getting a bid from anyone, anywhere.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by blessyourheart

Alas, "irregardless" is now an official word in the language. Check out a recent Webster's unabridged. I guess when people misuse or just outright make up words, eventually some become part of the language. Sigh.

As for Rebelcheergirl, there are no words.

A dictionary entry simply means a word is in usage - NOT that it is correct usage, as I point out to every student who tries to tell me "ain't" is in the dictionary. It is a shibboleth - thankfully, it helps weed out the uneducated.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by ellebud

I do not consider this a derailment of a thread. It is really a first look at what can happen to derail a recruitment that ends in a, "Why Wasn't I Chosen?" thread.

My youngest was a model (professional, not department store) and an actress (you might kind of vaguely think you knew her from somewhere when you saw her in the street kind of actress). NEVER did she think that she was a shoe in for the best house on campus. NEVER was she rude or condescending to her fellow pnms or Actives in ANY house. And frankly, she could have been difficult. But I like to think that she just knew better.

Oh honey, she was just raised right.

[DrPhil]

That idiot keeps messing up "seams," "there," and "apart."

She/he can't possibly really be an AP student. Making mistakes once and a while is one thing. Making mistakes almost everytime you type means you're dumb and Greekdom would be better off without you.

[RebelCheerBabii]

I'm kind of over people insulting my intelligence. If you think my typing sucks, then don't read it. If you think my question is stupid, don't answer it. I write the same way my friends write and forget that other people don't normally write that way. As you can see, I'm perfectly capable of typing coherently. I don't bother because honestly, I don't feel like proofreading internet posts. That seems like time that could be better spent doing other things. So yes, I make typos just like everyone else. I apologize for not bothering to correct them but again, if it bothers you that much stop reading it.

[ellebud]

You see, the problem isn't that you don't proof your grammar/spelling and/or punctuation. I am now saying this as a mom (I do that a lot I guess): The problem is that you aren't reading for content and how you come across. Truly, if you are in a recruitment party and your mind isn't in gear with your mouth you will say or do something unfortunate. And since I went through, as did my daughters, a VERY competitive recruitment system, thinking before writing or speaking is imperative.

My older daughter's recruitment came to a grinding halt (last party before Pref and she had to miss the first round because of class) when the Active who was rushing her started complaining about how much she HATED dating and parties. My daughter went into mental overdrive as to what she meant. She had her first thought and then said, "Oh, I know how hard it is to meet nice guys. My boyfriend has lots of good friends that I could introduce you to..." The girl then said, "No, I HATE dating and boys!:

Without a filter someone might say, "Are you gay?" (or something like an epithet). My daughter "knew" what the girl meant when Active began to fall apart. Daughter knew her recruitment was over, but she said, "I understand that relationships are difficult." Period, end. Get it? A filter and an edit button are importent companions.

SWTXBelle: Thank you.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

I'm kind of over people insulting my intelligence. If you think my typing sucks, then don't read it. If you think my question is stupid, don't answer it. I write the same way my friends write and forget that other people don't normally write that way. As you can see, I'm perfectly capable of typing coherently. I don't bother because honestly, I don't feel like proofreading internet posts. That seems like time that could be better spent doing other things. So yes, I make typos just like everyone else. I apologize for not bothering to correct them but again, if it bothers you that much stop reading it.

Good job. Do not pretend as though the other stuff was just typos. You know better than that and so do we.

When you come HERE and wish to engage US in discourse, turn your brain on and proofread your posts if you cannot get it correct the first time around. Save the dumb stuff for your peers (whose parents and teachers need to keep in check).

As for your attempt at advice, you are just a (troll or a) child. If our attempt at saving you from dumb before it is too late bothers you, don't read our posts. Better yet, don't log on again.

[annabella]

Originally Posted by ellebud

A filter and an edit button are important companions.

Yes.