Wedding etiquette

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Is there already a thread about cash bars versus open bars?

I'm a huuuuuuuuuge fan of open bars (libations make the world go 'round), but have been hearing people talk about cash bars more and more since the recession.

I think that if I were to get married now and price were an issue, I still wouldn't have an open bar, but maybe a white bar, where beer, white wine, and champagne were included. Or maybe even a limited open bar where we'd pick about 5-6 different kinds of liquor and mixers. Munchkin hates cash bars.

There's gotta be a way to be a good host and be budget conscious, too.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think that if I were to get married now and price were an issue, I still wouldn't have an open bar, but maybe a white bar, where beer, white wine, and champagne were included. Or maybe even a limited open bar where we'd pick about 5-6 different kinds of liquor and mixers. Munchkin hates cash bars.

There's gotta be a way to be a good host and be budget conscious, too.

I agree 100%. Hmmm....

Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn

We have discussed it. I think it was in the Random Wedding thread.

Oh noooooo, I must scour that thread. Thanks...I guess I'll find it.

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I've seen plenty of couples do what Munchkin described and have a white bar.

I've also seen couples have an open bar with the couples' signature cocktail and like 3 other drinks.

There's nothing worse than going to a wedding, ordering a drink, handing the bartender a tip and having him say "that'll be $7.00" because the bar is cash and you had no idea. Ewww.

That does suck to think it's an open bar (you leave a tip) but find out it's a cash bar.

I went to a gala years ago where it was a limited cash bar like you mentioned. It was great because it isn't hard to know what drinks are most popular for an age group. If people want their fancy and rare drinks then they can get it on their own time.

[ForeverRoses]

[QUOTE=honeychile;1912430
I can be very strict about wild children. My favorite method is to put a hand on each shoulder and to tell the wayward child to "quit embarrassing your family and go sit down." It's never failed - although parents usually shoot me a few nasty looks.[/QUOTE]

I don't think I would have a problem if you did this to my kids- sometimes a gentle repremand from someone they don't know very well goes much farther than me giving them a much more stern repremand. Then again, I don't take the kids places where they can get too out of control. Of the few weddings I have taken the kids to, we don't stay too long at the reception. (Honey, if you are ever in Indy, feel free to stop by and get my kids under control )

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think that if I were to get married now and price were an issue, I still wouldn't have an open bar, but maybe a white bar, where beer, white wine, and champagne were included. Or maybe even a limited open bar where we'd pick about 5-6 different kinds of liquor and mixers. Munchkin hates cash bars.

That is what we did- we paid for our wedding ourselves, so we had a wedding on a very tight budget. My entire wedding cost less than most of the dresses on Say Yes to the Dress. But everyone I talked to after said they had fun, so that was what mattered!

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

But everyone I talked to after said they had fun, so that was what mattered!

Well, no one's going to tell you to your face that your wedding sucked.

What mattered was that you and your husband had a blast without going into hock.

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Well, no one's going to tell you to your face that your wedding sucked.

What mattered was that you and your husband had a blast without going into hock.

True!

We had a blast, and still could afford a down payment on a house!

[joliebelle]

Fiance is going to be a groomsman for his best friend's wedding in a few weeks. Is there a certain amount that we should aim to spend for their wedding present? Is it better to get two things, or one larger item?