Wedding etiquette

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Ten will get you twenty that there's a cash bar, too!

If I absolutely "had to" attend this wedding, I think I'd ask how much the kiddie portions cost, or that we'll skip the meals.

There probably is a cash bar.

I actually don't know if the price listing meant that they have to pay for the meal, or if it was done in a "this is how much your meal costs, so this is how much our gift should be" kind of way.

Either is ubertacky.

[Gusteau]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I actually don't know if the price listing meant that they have to pay for the meal, or if it was done in a "this is how much your meal costs, so this is how much our gift should be" kind of way.

When I read you first post I thought it was more of an "order the chicken, or else" tactic than a pay for your meal thing. If its the latter, my only response is .


When my cousin got married - it lasted for a hot minute - all of "the Aunts" boycotted the wedding, which was a pretty significant statement of their disapproval. The marriage's two month lifetime pretty much goes to show that the Aunts are always right.

For non-Italian-Americans (because I'm not sure if this happens in other backgrounds): The Aunts, being my great aunts, are the ultimate judges of family social etiquette. There are usually a large number of them (because your grandparents undoubtedly have 10+ siblings) who hold court at family gatherings and look out to judge and catalog missteps on the part of hosts and guests. If they boycott an event it kind of equates to Soviet countries boycotting US Olympic Games - the message is clear. At least one of the is probably named Chickie.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There probably is a cash bar.

I actually don't know if the price listing meant that they have to pay for the meal, or if it was done in a "this is how much your meal costs, so this is how much our gift should be" kind of way.

Either is ubertacky.

I'm sure it's basically a price tag for how much you "owe" the couple as a wedding gift - but if it's that tacky, I'd put it in a bond that they can't touch within 10 years. It'll give them something else to argue about during the divorce proceedings.

When I was a divorce counselor, I heard more people than I care to mention talk about "we spent $100 a head on this wedding and your family only gave us $50 each!" TACKY!!!!!