Dating and finances

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by starang21

you never bring it up.

and gender roles do exist. whether or not you believe in them, enough people do to make it reality.

trying to challenge gender roles is all fine and well, but don't get mad when you're stuck with all the bags and your man is carrying a purse.

Especially if it's HIS purse.

at which point some intervention may be needed.

So...now that we are at this point of conversation, are there things that men and women are supposed to do because of their gender?

(Sidebar: When out and about, I walk with my s/o I walk closest to the street side...like my body can withstand the impact of a 2 ton car traveling upwards of 25 mph.)

Things like:

Washing clothes
Household repairs and plumbing
Holding doors open
Cooking (my pet peeve...LOL)
Paying bills and finances

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Especially if it's HIS purse.

at which point some intervention may be needed.

So...now that we are at this point of conversation, are there things that men and women are supposed to do because of their gender?

(Sidebar: When out and about, I walk with my s/o I walk closest to the street side...like my body can withstand the impact of a 2 ton car traveling upwards of 25 mph.)

Things like:

Washing clothes
Household repairs and plumbing
Holding doors open
Cooking (my pet peeve...LOL)
Paying bills and finances

i saw a dude who had a murse on. AND skinny jeans.

i walk to the side closest to the street. i can't stop a car, but i can push her out of the way.

all of those things you listed, either person can do. particularly if they have th know-how. but there are still things that a man should do. like open the door and carry most of the bags. or walk on the street side of the sidewalk.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by starang21

i saw a dude who had a murse on. AND skinny jeans.

^^^

Surprisingly, even with that short list, there are some people that think they are covered by gender specific roles; the man should be able to fix everything, the woman should wash clothes, etc.


You know, while I have no problems at all with cooking, and can do quite a bit myself, I still believe that if a woman wants to attract a man, 2 key things will bring him in, a clean home and good cooking.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

I still believe that if a woman wants to attract a man, 2 key things will bring him in, a clean home and good cooking.

And fast forward that 30 years. Her son is so content with his clean home, ironed shirts and never having to cook that he's still living at home with no desire to get married. Have seen it happen, y'all. Just stating that it's essential to show your children that men can also (and should also) do these things.

Not only that, it goes both ways. A man who wants to cook for me and does it well gets a pass on one annoying trait (for example, owning Nickleback albums).

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by 33girl

And fast forward that 30 years. Her son is so content with his clean home, ironed shirts and never having to cook that he's still living at home with no desire to get married. Have seen it happen, y'all. Just stating that it's essential to show your children that men can also (and should also) do these things.

Not only that, it goes both ways. A man who wants to cook for me and does it well gets a pass on one annoying trait (for example, owning Nickleback albums).

I agree it does go both ways. No one should ever rely on someone to do both but some things regardless of how it may come off stereotypically, it shows how well you take care yourself.

Mother always said, if she doesn't keep a clean house, there are other things that aren't clean. *wink*

Nickelback is not forgivable...hehehe

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

You know, while I have no problems at all with cooking, and can do quite a bit myself, I still believe that if a woman wants to attract a man, 2 key things will bring him in, a clean home and good cooking.

So, you believe gender equality. Good.

The man who got me partially brought me in because of two things: a clean home and good cooking.

I REFUSED to bring something to the table (literally and figuratively) that he couldn't. My household is relatively gender neutral so outside of the biological differences, he and I do the same or similar things.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

So, you believe gender equality. Good.

You haven't been reading my last couple of threads....

yes, I do believe in a gender equal household because these things don't solve themselves and as I said in another thread, what's the use in delineating something by gender if something happens to me and she won't do it because she 'relied' on me to do it and vice versa?

No sense in being with someone if you don't know how to be by (and do for) yourself, right?

[PiKA2001]

Originally Posted by starang21

i saw a dude who had a murse on. AND skinny jeans.

You mean a man bag? I always though murse referred to a male nurse.