Apology

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

How awkward would it have been if her mom wanted to get into any of the other houses? Not sure having a girl named "Ky-o" or "Aydipie" would quite have the same ring to it...

(Not that she shouldn't have wanted to get into any other house. You are all lovely. Just my attempt at a lame joke.)

I liked it

[AnotherKD]

Originally Posted by lovespink88

I liked it

Wokka wokka wokka.

[GeorgiaGPhiB]

Please do not say anything you said on here to any future sisters. The name, only good schools are ones with kd chapters, mom's dream more than yours ... etc. I get your excited, but it is creepy (whether meant to be or not). I do not mean to be ugly, but if this is your dream, you should know the way it would come off in the real world.

[ComradesTrue]

I did not see your other thread, so I apologize if this has already been said. Actually, I only apologize to other GCers. The OP needs to hear this over and over and over again.

First, agree with everyone who says to Stop Posting Now. You have no idea how presumptious, creepy, elitest, obnoxious and stalkerish that your posts (and mom's story) are coming across.

That being said, it sounds like that while you are (vaguely) familiar with Kappa Delta, you clearly are not familiar with recruitment, greek systems, etc.

Things to consider:
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you love, love, love the women that are in a different sorority than Kappa Delta. It happens. Frequently. Different chapters of different organizations on different campuses all have different personalities.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you do not like the women that are in the Kappa Delta chapter at your school. Again, not all Kappa Deltas are cookie cutters of each other. They can be vastly different at different schools.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and- gasp- the women of Kappa Delta may not feel a connection to you and you may get cut. This also happens. Frequently. Just because you want to be a part of a certain group does NOT mean that it is going to happen. The women in the chapter have to want you too. Sororities must make big cuts during the recruitment process to whiddle the PNM pool down to a pledge class size group of women.

-- your mom has put an insane amount of pressure on you, whether you realize it or not. You speak of the joy of being able to tell her that you are part of a group that she wanted to be in. What if you decide that you like another group better? Or, what if you do get released by KD? How will that phone call go? What will her reaction be? Would you be afraid to tell your mom these things? This is a convo that you need to have with your mom before recruitment even starts, as chances are high that one of these scenarios could play out.

-- if you do get cut by KD, will you continue with recruitment? Is your mindset an all-or-nothing one?

We see it happen all the time that PNMs get their hearts set on one chapter, and when that chapter cuts them the PNM drops out of recruitment. Later they realize the errors in their judgment, but it is too late for them. You really, really, really need to think through all of these scenarios because you could find yourself in those situations.

To be very blunt, you have set yourself up for immense disapointment. Your focus on setting your sights on just one group are wrong, wrong, wrong. Recruitment is a pressure filled situation. Why put a gazillion times more pressure on yourself by just focusing on one group? Relax, get into a college, sign up for recruitment, and just enjoy the process of meeting (ALL) sorority women and other PNMs. What comes will come. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy any of the chapters on your campus. Allow yourself the freedom to choose the chapter that you love, not the one that your mom does. Allow yourself the opportunity to chart your own course. These things can bring you even more happiness.

(Why do I feel like her mom's name should be Brandi Rae?)

[groovypq]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

I did not see your other thread, so I apologize if this has already been said. Actually, I only apologize to other GCers. The OP needs to hear this over and over and over again.

First, agree with everyone who says to Stop Posting Now. You have no idea how presumptious, creepy, elitest, obnoxious and stalkerish that your posts (and mom's story) are coming across.

That being said, it sounds like that while you are (vaguely) familiar with Kappa Delta, you clearly are not familiar with recruitment, greek systems, etc.

Things to consider:
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you love, love, love the women that are in a different sorority than Kappa Delta. It happens. Frequently. Different chapters of different organizations on different campuses all have different personalities.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you do not like the women that are in the Kappa Delta chapter at your school. Again, not all Kappa Deltas are cookie cutters of each other. They can be vastly different at different schools.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and- gasp- the women of Kappa Delta may not feel a connection to you and you may get cut. This also happens. Frequently. Just because you want to be a part of a certain group does NOT mean that it is going to happen. The women in the chapter have to want you too. Sororities must make big cuts during the recruitment process to whiddle the PNM pool down to a pledge class size group of women.

-- your mom has put an insane amount of pressure on you, whether you realize it or not. You speak of the joy of being able to tell her that you are part of a group that she wanted to be in. What if you decide that you like another group better? Or, what if you do get released by KD? How will that phone call go? What will her reaction be? Would you be afraid to tell your mom these things? This is a convo that you need to have with your mom before recruitment even starts, as chances are high that one of these scenarios could play out.

-- if you do get cut by KD, will you continue with recruitment? Is your mindset an all-or-nothing one?

We see it happen all the time that PNMs get their hearts set on one chapter, and when that chapter cuts them the PNM drops out of recruitment. Later they realize the errors in their judgment, but it is too late for them. You really, really, really need to think through all of these scenarios because you could find yourself in those situations.

To be very blunt, you have set yourself up for immense disapointment. Your focus on setting your sights on just one group are wrong, wrong, wrong. Recruitment is a pressure filled situation. Why put a gazillion times more pressure on yourself by just focusing on one group? Relax, get into a college, sign up for recruitment, and just enjoy the process of meeting (ALL) sorority women and other PNMs. What comes will come. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy any of the chapters on your campus. Allow yourself the freedom to choose the chapter that you love, not the one that your mom does. Allow yourself the opportunity to chart your own course. These things can bring you even more happiness.

(Why do I feel like her mom's name should be Brandi Rae?)

This is so full of win I had to QFP... in a good way.

[annabella]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

(Why do I feel like her mom's name should be Brandi Rae?)

...the "ee" at the end of a name is on the same end of the white trash spectrum as "i" as far as I'm concerned.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by annabella

...the "ee" at the end of a name is on the same end of the white trash spectrum as "i" as far as I'm concerned.

Maybe Brandi Rae had a baby and found some of the human growth hormone left over from when Reva got cloned on Guiding Light.

Asa actually is a name, but it's a guy's name. Oh well That one you could actually get away with if your mom was a big One Life To Live fan.

[DaffyKD]

Originally Posted by annabella

...the "ee" at the end of a name is on the same end of the white trash spectrum as "i" as far as I'm concerned.

I use an "i" at the end of my name. Have been using it for 40+ years and there is no way I can be classified white trash.

DaffyKD

[DaffyKD]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

I did not see your other thread, so I apologize if this has already been said. Actually, I only apologize to other GCers. The OP needs to hear this over and over and over again.

First, agree with everyone who says to Stop Posting Now. You have no idea how presumptious, creepy, elitest, obnoxious and stalkerish that your posts (and mom's story) are coming across.

That being said, it sounds like that while you are (vaguely) familiar with Kappa Delta, you clearly are not familiar with recruitment, greek systems, etc.

Things to consider:
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you love, love, love the women that are in a different sorority than Kappa Delta. It happens. Frequently. Different chapters of different organizations on different campuses all have different personalities.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you do not like the women that are in the Kappa Delta chapter at your school. Again, not all Kappa Deltas are cookie cutters of each other. They can be vastly different at different schools.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and- gasp- the women of Kappa Delta may not feel a connection to you and you may get cut. This also happens. Frequently. Just because you want to be a part of a certain group does NOT mean that it is going to happen. The women in the chapter have to want you too. Sororities must make big cuts during the recruitment process to whiddle the PNM pool down to a pledge class size group of women.

-- your mom has put an insane amount of pressure on you, whether you realize it or not. You speak of the joy of being able to tell her that you are part of a group that she wanted to be in. What if you decide that you like another group better? Or, what if you do get released by KD? How will that phone call go? What will her reaction be? Would you be afraid to tell your mom these things? This is a convo that you need to have with your mom before recruitment even starts, as chances are high that one of these scenarios could play out.

-- if you do get cut by KD, will you continue with recruitment? Is your mindset an all-or-nothing one?

We see it happen all the time that PNMs get their hearts set on one chapter, and when that chapter cuts them the PNM drops out of recruitment. Later they realize the errors in their judgment, but it is too late for them. You really, really, really need to think through all of these scenarios because you could find yourself in those situations.

To be very blunt, you have set yourself up for immense disapointment. Your focus on setting your sights on just one group are wrong, wrong, wrong. Recruitment is a pressure filled situation. Why put a gazillion times more pressure on yourself by just focusing on one group? Relax, get into a college, sign up for recruitment, and just enjoy the process of meeting (ALL) sorority women and other PNMs. What comes will come. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy any of the chapters on your campus. Allow yourself the freedom to choose the chapter that you love, not the one that your mom does. Allow yourself the opportunity to chart your own course. These things can bring you even more happiness.

(Why do I feel like her mom's name should be Brandi Rae?)

I want to add one more thing to these wise words:

Your mother went to college at a different time, there were different women in KD at that time. When a young lady goes through recruitment she is basing her decision on the women she meets NOW. Not one woman who was active in the house when your mother went through school would still be active today. You are not your mother, you MUST make your own decision. This is the same advise I gave my own daughter when she went away to school and there was a KD chapter on her campus. I told her that if she went through recruitment (and she did not), she had to look at the houses based on who was active now, not based on my long time KD friends or who was active when I was a teenager going through rush. As long as you are happy in the house you choose, that is all that is important.

DaffyKD