Kicked Out of My Fraternity. Did They do Something Wrong?

[Kevin]

Like you said, you don't really care whether you're in or out, so why do you ask? That doesn't really add up.

I don't have any experience with your organization's rules/laws, so it'd be a little next to impossible to give accurate and helpful advice regarding the same. I can go on assumptions based on my experience with my organization only, which is something that's likely to be inaccurate when applied to your position.

So bearing that disclaimer in mind, first -- it doesn't sound like you were ever initiated. Initiates are (in my org) afforded a pretty high degree of due process, up to and including a full-blown trial where they can call witnesses and have others speak on their behalf in front of a jury consisting of the entire chapter. They are required to be given service of process, either by hand delivery or certified mail. They are even entitled to an appeal to the High Council. The rules aren't very complicated, but they're just complicated enough that someone might screw up, not properly giving notice or something like that. I suppose in that sort of situation, one could appeal his dismissal to the High Council, but to what end? They voted, they don't want you, you don't want them, shouldn't that be the end of the story?

You almost remind me of the typical criminal client -- guilty as hell, not telling me the truth about what happened, and expecting me to come up with some magic loophole to keep him out of prison.

The real world doesn't work like that. Let's just assume that everything you told us is God's honest truth.

1) You were never initiated [probably lessens the requirements of procedure to get rid of you]
2) You were one of a group of less than 10 guys.
3) They placed a lot of trust in you, electing you to an important position.
4) You decided to get a job which kept you from going to meetings [sorry, that was a choice, not a necessity, there's really no excuse for it, it telegraphs that you do not value your membership or participation in the org]
5) You said it yourself, you wouldn't rejoin if they begged you.

-- so again, why are you positing this convoluted tale of woe?