UVA/ VA-Tech re-rushing

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Oh God that is funny.

It was worse because my fella's fraternity brother was sitting behind me and was laughing about something (I'm not sure if it was the same thing) and it about set me off. I have a good friend in that course and we don't sit together because one day a diagram looked like men's genitalia and sometimes we're juvenile like that. After class we walked outside and laughed so hard my mascara ran.

If my fella had joined the fraternity he was a double legacy to (through a chapter founder) or the other one he was a legacy to instead of the one he did join we probably never have met. Even though his chapter had their problems and struggles (as did those other two) I wouldn't have met his brothers in classes and had them vouch for him. Good thing he gave it more than twenty four hours and his brothers are still his best friends years later

[Carpe Aeternum]

Before making a decision, talk to a rho chi from who worked with upperclassmen during this rush.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Carpe Aeternum

Before making a decision, talk to a rho chi from UVA who worked with upperclassmen during this rush.

fixed your post. Very good idea.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

I went through recruitment spring of my freshman year at Virginia Tech. I very reluctantly accepted a bid to my second choice sorority -- I liked them and they are a very good but not "top" sorority. Besides all of that I just knew that I didn't really belong there so I decided to drop out on bid day. I waited my year, got to know girls in my first choice sorority, went through rush again (as a sophomore) and got a bid to my first choice and am as happy as I can be. When I went back through rush and went to parties at the sorority I dropped I really don't think they even remembered me (luckily). They were nice to me and even invited me back to philanthropy round but I dropped them then. I can't speak about rush at UVA -- I think it is much more competitive then here at Tech -- but I am very glad I followed my heart and did what was right for me.

Interesting first post. Just sayin'.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

I went through recruitment spring of my freshman year at Virginia Tech. I very reluctantly accepted a bid to my second choice sorority -- I liked them and they are a very good but not "top" sorority. Besides all of that I just knew that I didn't really belong there so I decided to drop out on bid day. I waited my year, got to know girls in my first choice sorority, went through rush again (as a sophomore) and got a bid to my first choice and am as happy as I can be. When I went back through rush and went to parties at the sorority I dropped I really don't think they even remembered me (luckily). They were nice to me and even invited me back to philanthropy round but I dropped them then. I can't speak about rush at UVA -- I think it is much more competitive then here at Tech -- but I am very glad I followed my heart and did what was right for me.

what was different with your recruitment this time around, i.e., did you have recs. vs. no recs. the first time, did you get involved in other orgs. on campus, did your gpa improve, had you made a lot of friends in your #1 choice, such good friends that you hung out with #1 a lot? what do you think turned the tide in your favor the 2nd time around?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

what do you think turned the tide in your favor the 2nd time around?

The fact that it happened in the Imaginarium.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

I am for real...anyway. Several of us read this site all the time but we hardly see anything about Virginia schools, particularly Tech. So when I did, I wanted to comment because you all are telling this girl that she is wrong for not wanting to stay with a group where she does not feel totally at home. All I did was get to know girls I met through recruitment from my first choice sorority -- the one that I originally did not get a bid from. We became friends and the next year I went through I got a bid. I did not improve my grades, they have always been decent and I have never gotten recs -- they just aren't important at Tech and very few girls get them. I am involved with a few other groups on campus but it is nothing spectacular. I simply got to know people. And obviously no one held it against me that I dropped out the year before from the group I didn't feel totally at home with. Maybe my situation is totally a fluke but I am example that it is not impossible. And I hate that we are stuck here for another weekend in the snow!!

Coolio! And what Sorority has the pleasure of you as a member?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

. . . I wanted to comment because you all are telling this girl that she is wrong for not wanting to stay with a group where she does not feel totally at home.

Many of us have a very hard time believeing that she could have a real clue whether or not she feels totally at home barely a day after getting her bid.

[CougarGrad]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

you all are telling this girl that she is wrong for not wanting to stay with a group where she does not feel totally at home.

That's not actually what we're telling her. That's great that things worked out for you, though.

[abbeyroad3]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

I went through recruitment spring of my freshman year at Virginia Tech. I very reluctantly accepted a bid to my second choice sorority -- I liked them and they are a very good but not "top" sorority. Besides all of that I just knew that I didn't really belong there so I decided to drop out on bid day. I waited my year, got to know girls in my first choice sorority, went through rush again (as a sophomore) and got a bid to my first choice and am as happy as I can be. When I went back through rush and went to parties at the sorority I dropped I really don't think they even remembered me (luckily). They were nice to me and even invited me back to philanthropy round but I dropped them then. I can't speak about rush at UVA -- I think it is much more competitive then here at Tech -- but I am very glad I followed my heart and did what was right for me.

Um...THANK YOU. That's all I can think to say. Everyone has been telling me that I must stick it out, but I'm really glad you understand what it's like to just not feel like the perfect fit. Reading this was a huge comfort to know that whatever I decide, it may not be the end of the world.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by girlygirl1

I went through recruitment spring of my freshman year at Virginia Tech. I very reluctantly accepted a bid to my second choice sorority -- I liked them and they are a very good but not "top" sorority. Besides all of that I just knew that I didn't really belong there so I decided to drop out on bid day. I waited my year, got to know girls in my first choice sorority, went through rush again (as a sophomore) and got a bid to my first choice and am as happy as I can be. When I went back through rush and went to parties at the sorority I dropped I really don't think they even remembered me (luckily). They were nice to me and even invited me back to philanthropy round but I dropped them then. I can't speak about rush at UVA -- I think it is much more competitive then here at Tech -- but I am very glad I followed my heart and did what was right for me.

Originally Posted by abbeyroad3

Um...THANK YOU. That's all I can think to say. Everyone has been telling me that I must stick it out, but I'm really glad you understand what it's like to just not feel like the perfect fit. Reading this was a huge comfort to know that whatever I decide, it may not be the end of the world.

But she doesn't understand what it's like to just not feel the perfect fit, because she didn't give that chapter a chance, either. And why did she not give them a chance? Because, as she said, they weren't a "top" sorority. She dropped out for the same superficial reasons that you seem to believe are so important.

And to drop, go through recruitment again, and then get your top choice (i.e. "the best" sorority, according to you) is a RARE occurence. Plus, girlygirl doesn't attend the same school as you. You would be wise to wait a little while, because either way, you're bound for a year.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by abbeyroad3

Um...THANK YOU. That's all I can think to say. Everyone has been telling me that I must stick it out, but I'm really glad you understand what it's like to just not feel like the perfect fit. Reading this was a huge comfort to know that whatever I decide, it may not be the end of the world.

Clearly you just want good news, and you don't care what kind of no-name GCer said it or where she goes to school or how common such an event is. Such occurences are the exception (especially at UVA and Tech), and they can only happen when you do something to improve yourself next time.

Thing is, it doesn't make a difference whether you drop out now or wait until right before initiation to drop, because you can't rush again until Spring '11. You might as well try your hardest to find your place in the chapter.

[Ooh La La]

So after lurking on this site for a while, I feel like I have to comment on this. I just went through recruitment at Virginia Tech and honestly, I feel like the vast majority of girls didn't even know about the "tiers." Thank the Baby Jesus most actually go where they have a good fit instead of only concentrating on these tiers. In reality, very few people actually care about them and those are the people who post on juicy campus or whatever it's latest incarnation is.