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[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Right. I thought about what "physical needs" could mean and that's all I could come up with.

Generally, it probably would refer to fathers (and mothers) wanting their daughters (and children) to be physically and mentally safe and sound.

However, although many people don't want to admit this because it sounds horrible, many fathers do think about their daughter's sexuality and sex life. They grapple with their daughter's virginity (some even going to the level of chastity promises, etc.) and gasp at the concept of a man touching and sleeping with their daughter. This is something that they tend not to want to discuss with others or think about for long periods of time. It makes them cringe. But, it is something that fathers deal with because of the nature of patriarchy and the family structure.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

However, although many people don't want to admit this because it sounds horrible, many fathers do think about their daughter's sexuality and sex life. They grapple with their daughter's virginity (some even going to the level of chastity promises, etc.) and gasp at the concept of a man touching and sleeping with their daughter. This is something that they tend not to want to discuss with others or think about for long periods of time. It makes them cringe. But, it is something that fathers deal with because of the nature of patriarchy and the family structure.

This is exactly what I was thinking about. While we laugh at movies like "Father of the Bride," and the stereotype of the overprotective father, part of that whole thing is based in a father's concern about his daughter's sexuality (which could range from a justifiable fear about not wanting their daughters to be taken advantage of to actual jealousy of the man in her life).

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

This is exactly what I was thinking about. While we laugh at movies like "Father of the Bride," and the stereotype of the overprotective father, part of that whole thing is based in a father's concern about his daughter's sexuality (which could range from a justifiable fear about not wanting their daughters to be taken advantage of to actual jealousy of the man in her life).

Yep. Some daughters go along with this until they are 100 years old just to make their fathers feel like the big bad patriarch for eternity. Fathers are considered the protector to the point where a grown ass woman gets around her father and starts acting like a submissive baby.

To a lesser extent this happens with mothers and sons. I know of mothers (and sisters) who consider themselves the woman in their sons' (and brothers') lives to the point where they haze the hell out of any other woman. It is very strange.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Yep. Some daughters go along with this until they are 100 years old just to make their fathers feel like the big bad patriarch for eternity. Fathers are considered the protector to the point where a grown ass woman gets around her father and starts acting like a submissive baby.

I've definitely seen this.

I also wonder how many fathers use the "he can't provide for you" excuse to sabotage their daughters' relationships. If a woman becomes a child when her father's around and takes her father's advice about EVERYTHING, I could see it happen--even if the guy isn't a scrub.

This + the chastity pledges discussion + a discussion with my sister earlier today about how her 9 year-old son thinks like a chauvinist = a nauseous Munchkin, LOL.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

However, although many people don't want to admit this because it sounds horrible, many fathers do think about their daughter's sexuality and sex life. They grapple with their daughter's virginity (some even going to the level of chastity promises, etc.) and gasp at the concept of a man touching and sleeping with their daughter.

Ex-job story #572: We got a new representative from one of the vendors we dealt with. Well he comes in, introduces himself, and starts talking about his family, including the fact that his daughters went to a purity ball and wear purity rings. Now as if this isn't squicky ENOUGH, our department head asks him if he can talk with him further about that, because his daughters are getting to be "that age." I can only say TMMFI.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Ex-job story #572: We got a new representative from one of the vendors we dealt with. Well he comes in, introduces himself, and starts talking about his family, including the fact that his daughters went to a purity ball and wear purity rings. Now as if this isn't squicky ENOUGH, our department head asks him if he can talk with him further about that, because his daughters are getting to be "that age." I can only say TMMFI.

Ya gotta get em before the boys do!!

Fathers are the only ones who can smack them on the ass and say "who's yo daddy?!?!?!?!"

[starang21]

you have a boy, you gotta worry about one penis.

you have a girl, you gotta worry about all the penises.