A unique and kind of sad recruit story

[Stanleypeep]

Well, I think that perhaps yes it may seem different, which is why I called my story unique.

I wanted to post this as a compliment to you all I suppose just to let you know that even though things like this happen to people and girls who do go through recruitment post on here and then don't get a bid and leave doesn't mean girls like us who don't wind up as actives can still respect the greek system and can still wish we were a part of it, even if we couldn't be due to circumstance.

I was under the impression that you all would welcome compliments no matter how different a background or experience. Its not something I openly talk about to people just because I don't want them to think that I'm some nut job. But I've always felt that if they thought that they they weren't truly understanding the moral of the story. The moral to me which was, even if you're not a part of it due to whatever reason, you can still have an enormous respect and maintain lasting friendships no matter what the outcome of your experience.

I guess what fascinates me most is why you WOULDN'T welcome those who aren't a part of the system actively to join the conversation even after they've not received a bid/maintained active/disaffiliated. To me I think any experience no matter how strange, long ago, or sad it may be I think it creates interesting dialogue about Greek Life. Mostly I was interested to see your opinion on my experience, if to you it seemed normal.

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

[ThetaPrincess24]

I'm sorry, but I'm just not fully buying your story or purpose in posting it. That's all I'm saying.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

I guess what fascinates me most is why you WOULDN'T welcome those who aren't a part of the system actively to join the conversation even after they've not received a bid/maintained active/disaffiliated.

No one has said that the women you've just described aren't welcome to join the conversation. My GC experience has shown that, if anything, women who aren't Greek stop posting on their own accord (or, obviously, never start) instead of being told/asked not to by GCers.

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Mostly I was interested to see your opinion on my experience, if to you it seemed normal.

But you've already said it's unique, so this makes very little sense. (Because, generally, normal things aren't unique. Although, there's certainly an argument to be made about the accuracy of that statement.)

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

THIS is the main reason, IMO, you posted your whole story. It feels like you're asking us to share things that aren't anyone's business. This type of question isn't kosher.

[ThetaDancer]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Well, I think that perhaps yes it may seem different, which is why I called my story unique.

I wanted to post this as a compliment to you all I suppose just to let you know that even though things like this happen to people and girls who do go through recruitment post on here and then don't get a bid and leave doesn't mean girls like us who don't wind up as actives can still respect the greek system and can still wish we were a part of it, even if we couldn't be due to circumstance.

I was under the impression that you all would welcome compliments no matter how different a background or experience. Its not something I openly talk about to people just because I don't want them to think that I'm some nut job. But I've always felt that if they thought that they they weren't truly understanding the moral of the story. The moral to me which was, even if you're not a part of it due to whatever reason, you can still have an enormous respect and maintain lasting friendships no matter what the outcome of your experience.

I guess what fascinates me most is why you WOULDN'T welcome those who aren't a part of the system actively to join the conversation even after they've not received a bid/maintained active/disaffiliated. To me I think any experience no matter how strange, long ago, or sad it may be I think it creates interesting dialogue about Greek Life. Mostly I was interested to see your opinion on my experience, if to you it seemed normal.

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

This is just not sitting well with me. Again, I think it's just airing dirty laundry to post things like that. Why are you asking things like this? Because, a long time ago, there was a girl with questionable judgment in your pledge class? You should move past it.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

It rings out "Feel sorry for me!" and most people hate the feeling of being manipulated into feeling sorry for somebody (read: very different than genuinely feeling sorry for a friend). I view statements like yours as being manipulated, because I don't know you and I don't believe your reasons for starting this thread.

Quoted for truth.

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

To me I think any experience no matter how strange, long ago, or sad it may be I think it creates interesting dialogue about Greek Life. Mostly I was interested to see your opinion on my experience, if to you it seemed normal.

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

I'm sorry.

This isn't you "starting a dialogue."

This is you throwing shade on your former sorority and spreading gossip under the guise of "sharing your experience."

We were not born yesterday.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

Is this the "sad" part of your "Unique and kind of Sad" story? I'm still confused as to why you posted it.

[Miriverite]

oops, hit reply on the wrong thread.

[KSUViolet06]

Miriverite:

Please start your own thread, so that peeps who want to follow it can do so without having to read through the shady one you posted it in

Thank you kindly!

[AnotherKD]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Mostly I was interested to see your opinion on my experience, if to you it seemed normal.

Specifically, did any of you experience other girls in your pledge class who seemed nice at first, but did some questionable things, but wasn't dismissed or reprimanded for them?

That doesn't really sound to me like "This is a story for potential PNM's that have doubts to basically say, if you have those doubts, here's why you may regret them."

Not buying it.