Losing the chapter you joined?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by CRM114

I never really considered myself to be the type of guy to join a fraternity, but when I came to my current school I wanted to broaden my horizons and get more social so I went out to rush. I found a small chapter that seemed to be full of a good mixture of guys who were close to each other. I pledged and was initiated and it was great at first. But a lot of the guys in the chapter are very ambitious and have pushed our house to get bigger. We've almost doubled membership, and as a result I feel the quality of our members and the chapter has dropped. I also feel like we've become one of the stereotypical "d-bag frats" that I hate, most of our members only care about partying and finding good connections with sororities. At rush, it seems that what connections a guy has or how rich his family is matters more than what type of guy he is. Should I just cut my losses and accept that I probably shouldn't have joined this chapter? I love the ideals of my fraternity but nobody else seems to care about them.

Have you actually spent time getting to know these guys as people, or are you just dismissing them because they fit a stereotype on the outside?

I mean - just because a guy likes to play beer pong, pop his collar and listen to whatever the hip party music is these days, doesn't mean he doesn't also like to (example) watch old 70s sci fi movies or have other interests you might not associate w/ the stereotypical fraternity guy.

Most likely what happened is that for a long, long time they couldn't pledge anyone who WAS more social, now that is happening and they're going a little overboard. Even if the guys are nontypical, it is still a SOCIAL fraternity.