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Originally Posted by carnation

A relative, D, told me many years ago that she wasn't Greek at her university, that she hadn't been interested. Both her daughters pledged ABC years later.

A couple of years ago, a neighbor told me that she'd heard that D was a member of DEF. I said no, she was never Greek, and this woman looked at me weirdly and said that several people had been told this. This weekend, another woman came up and said that her daughter had pledged DEF just like D had! I told her that D was never Greek and she told me that D had plainly told her a few months before that she was a DEF. She said, "Okay, no harm meant!" and took off.

This is getting really strange. I don't know why D is reinventing her college years and it's difficult when people say something about her sorority membership. Of course, I'd like to say, "Okay, you've been telling people that you went DEF and we both know you didn't and if you start trying to write recs, I'm calling the national group." (I can see her getting into a situation where she might be asked to write recs, as that group is popular around here.)

How would you guys handle it? I need to be diplomatic.

Perhaps she is re-inventing her college years because her children joined and she feels that they are having the college experience that she missed out on?

Also, aren't you part of a very Greek family? Maybe she feels left out when all of the other women in the family start talking about their sorority experience?

On the subject of recs: Don't all NPCs double check to see that the recs are written by an actual alumna? I know I have heard of advisory boards doing a directory search for the alumna who signed a rec to make sure she's legit.