Another Fall Recruitment Story (but no less special)

[omgitstiffanie]

Today was Preference Night. I was so excited because I haven't had a chance to dress up since my high school graduation. I called my Rho Chi because I was so scared that I could be dropped but she assured me that I had a party. I speculated which one it was but honestly couldn't guess.

I arrived at the student union and saw everyone dressed up. Everyone was really pretty! They all had really fashionable clothes. I was jealous of the tall girls because they had such long legs (I'm only 5'4). I got my party schedule.

8:00 - Oscar de la Renta

I was so disappointed! I really liked Dolce & Gabbana. I didn't cry but I wanted to. One of the friends I made in recruitment rode with me to the house. She had her party at 7:00 so I had to wait another hour. I just sat in the car and thought.

I called my Rho Chi and told her that I wanted to drop out. I told her I really liked the other sorority and I just couldn't see myself fitting in with those girls. She told me to just go to the party and if I wanted to drop out afterward I could. I think I had already made up my mind because even though I really respected my Rho Chi, I wanted another opinion. I called my brother and he told me that I should drop out because joining a sorority would put a financial strain on our family. I agreed with him and went back to the student union to withdraw from recruitment.
< br/> The girls at the student union were really nice and hoped that I would go into recruitment again. I told them I wasn't ruling out Greek life. And that's the end of my recruitment story.

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As per FSUZeta's request that I post all in one day.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by omgitstiffanie

I called my Rho Chi and told her that I wanted to drop out. I told her I really liked the other sorority and I just couldn't see myself fitting in with those girls. She told me to just go to the party and if I wanted to drop out afterward I could. I think I had already made up my mind because even though I really respected my Rho Chi, I wanted another opinion. I called my brother and he told me that I should drop out because joining a sorority would put a financial strain on our family. I agreed with him and went back to the student union to withdraw from recruitment.

So instead of going to preference, you ask your brother, who has no idea how you've interacted with the chapter? I know you said Oscar was the most expensive, but would Oscar have been a financial strain but not the others? Are they significantly more expensive than the others?

[omgitstiffanie]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

So instead of going to preference, you ask your brother, who has no idea how you've interacted with the chapter? I know you said Oscar was the most expensive, but would Oscar have been a financial strain but not the others? Are they significantly more expensive than the others?

No, I asked my brother if he thought it was a good idea. And he basically told me that I was already stretched too thin between starting college and our family's situation (not just financial). He said that I should just wait a little bit, maybe even until sophomore year before settling in any permanent groups. Like I said, I think I had already made up my mind about withdrawing. I do regret it a little bit, but I didn't want to away someone else's chance at getting in either. So I just decided to drop out and focus more on school for now.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by omgitstiffanie

No, I asked my brother if he thought it was a good idea. And he basically told me that I was already stretched too thin between starting college and our family's situation (not just financial). He said that I should just wait a little bit, maybe even until sophomore year before settling in any permanent groups. Like I said, I think I had already made up my mind about withdrawing. I do regret it a little bit, but I didn't want to away someone else's chance at getting in either. So I just decided to drop out and focus more on school for now.

I can't tell from your story if your brother is at the same school as you, but if not I hope he didn't sell you a bum steer. At some schools, freshman year is the best if not only chance you will get to rush. I'm concerned he might be from a campus where girls can get bids easily any of the 4 years - or worse, looking at it from a guy's perspective (men's rush & women's rush are completely different).

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I can't tell from your story if your brother is at the same school as you, but if not I hope he didn't sell you a bum steer. At some schools, freshman year is the best if not only chance you will get to rush. I'm concerned he might be from a campus where girls can get bids easily any of the 4 years - or worse, looking at it from a guy's perspective (men's rush & women's rush are completely different).

This.

Dropping out and waiting until next year does not always = a better result next time.

You may not be invited backk to any of the same chapters, or not get a bid at all.

At some schools, freshman year is your best shot.

He (being a guy who has no experience with sorority recruitment) may not understand that.

[honeychile]

Yet, if there is a family situation (which you certainly don't need to discuss on the internet), it may be for the best. Once it clears up, and you rethink your desire to go greek, talk to the Greek Advisor. My best to you.

[OPhiAGinger]

Originally Posted by omgitstiffanie

Like I said, I think I had already made up my mind about withdrawing. I do regret it a little bit, but I didn't want to away someone else's chance at getting in either. So I just decided to drop out and focus more on school for now.

I admire you for having the courage to make this decision, even though I am a little wistful about those Oscar de la Renta girls. If they (Oscar or any of the sororities) do informal recruitment, I hope you take the opportunity to get to know them better. The Oscars sounded like a great sisterhood, but like they are victims of some unfortunate tent talk which continues to adversely impact their recruitment. If you spend time with them in a less intense atmosphere, you may be better able to separate the tent talk from the reality and make the best decision for you in the long run.

Best of luck! Focus on your studies, make a 4.0 this semester, and get to know all kinds of woman on campus, both in a sorority and in other organizations.